DH and I have been together 12 years. He's always been a heavy drinker. I went through a tough 12 months when I became disabled, used alcohol to control pain until I was diagnosed and correctly medicated. Now I very rarely drink at all, maybe 1 glass of wine every 3 months or so, and generally if we are out somewhere.
DH gave up drinking last year for around 3 months, then started drinking again when we went on AI holiday. He didn't give up for any specific reason, has not hit rock bottom etc. He gave up again at new year and said he would not drink till Easter. 3 weeks ago he had a night out planned for Sat. Decided he would drink, so bought some larger and drank Thu, Fri and Sat that week. He had 4-5 cans each night, a lot less than he used to drink (full bottle of wine 5-6 nights a week).
Last week he did the same, drinking Thu, Fri and Sat. But he had whiskey each night and cans of larger. Always Stella by the way.
Last night he went out but was driving so max 2 pints, then I found 4 empty cans in the bin. He's on his way home now and offered to stop at the shop, asked what we needed. I asked straight out if he was going for beer? Yes. Now is he planning 4 nights of booze?
I really prefer the sober DH. He's not abusive just thoughtless and inconsiderate when he's drunk. And it's a lot of money. I lost my job 3 months ago and we have been living on savings. I'm worried about the money, but more worried for him obviously.
We don't have the kind of relationship where either of us tells the other what to do. If he ever told me to eat less cake, he would be right that I'm overweight, but my shit to sort when I want to.
What do I do? Should I tell him I think he's an alcoholic and has a drink problem?
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Mehfruittea · 09/03/2017 17:26
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