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cjt110 · 09/03/2017 08:52

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My son is 2.5. Has been at his nursery since 6m of age. Diagnosed with a cows milk protein allergy at 11m. He cannot have any form of dairy. In the interim time between diagnosis and now we have had no slips ups at nursery (that I can recall). He has been mad ready for moving to preschool (they usually move them at 3 but he is ready).

We were verbally informed in Feb about this but received none of the usual transition paperwork and only realised his settling in sessions had begun because he was not in his usual room at collection. I raised that we hadnt had any paperwork and was told we had been given some. We had not. We didnt even know who our son's keyworker was going to be. My husband was greeted with "Who are you" when he went to collect our son in an abrupt offhand tone. He was also casually told "Oh by the way he's had a mouthful of cows milk" Cue an awful night but luckily nothing more than an upset stomach. The last time he had cows milk aged 11m we ended up in A&E resus with pulse of 200 beats a minute, temp of 39.4 and sats of 84% and were transferred on oxygen to another hospital.

I addressed the above with the nursery manager who apologised profusely - was not aware of the milk incident and could not understand why we hadn't been given any of the transition information as it is their procedure to do so. I was advised paperwork would be ready the next time our son was in nursery (He's only there 2 days a week) and I could meet his new keyworker.

So yesterday I met his new KW, stressed about his milk allergy and also he is not to have fish - he gets horrendous stomach ache if he has it so it is best to not give him any. She confirms she will ensure that this is followed.

Husband collects son to be told "Oh, we rang and left your wife a message - he accidentally had a mouthful of fish" I got no message. They have called my old mobile number which I updated with them around beginning of January.

Unsettled night with DS, awful nappies. Get into nursery this morning and am met by his keyworker who apologises for the incident yesterday, particularly as we had only discussed it that morning. I said I was not happy as he had had 2 days in the new room and 2 incidents already. I asked what had been put in place to stip this happening again. Their procedure was they would put out the meals, get the children to wash their hands and then get the children to find their places. They find their places by looking for their name on a laminated piece of card which also states if they cannot have something. My son is 2.5. He cannot recognise his name and so just got a spoonful of someone elses food. I was advised they will change their procedure to put out meals once the children are seated.

I inquired do they have any other children with allergies in that room to be told no, only vegetarians. I said if my child was vegetarian for cultural reasons, I would be equally cross if they had managed to get hold of something that they shouldnt have.

I have left it with them but also asked for the manager to call me after she arrives.

AIBU to do the above?

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SalemSaberhagen · 09/03/2017 08:56

Not at all. That is horrendously lax of them. They have no excuses, I would be fuming in your shoes.