AIBU

[Bluebell28]

OK long story short, I am recently recovered from serious near fatal illness. I live separately from DP of four years . I borrowed £500 from him whilst in hospital, first time I have asked him for money. He grumbled about his ex and paying her debts. He takes home 7k a month. After months of hospital and convalescence at my house , I am back working . I offered him back the money he says no I don't want it. We talked about me moving to his house as planned before I got ill. He says why don't you come for a few days I like your cooking. AIBU to be fed up? I can't work from his house , I have income from an investment but after he grumbled when I asked to borrow 500 pounds AIBU to live in my house he says he hates my house as his has more garden

[Bluebell28]

Just read that back , sorry for terrible grammar and no paragraphs how do I edit on the app?

[BreakfastAtSquiffanys]

I'm sure exactly what your AIBU is?

[BreakfastAtSquiffanys]

Sorry, NOT sure

[ZilphasHatpin]

Eh? Just stay in your own house. He can stay in his.

[mollymaid16]

If staying in your own house makes your happier for now then do it but what are yous going to do in the long run you will have to make a choice at some point. And he sounds like he's not really the compromising sort

[Sirzy]

I'm not really sure what the problem is?

[pilates]

So he wants you to stay for a couple of days so you can cook for him.

Doesn't sound like he is that serious about you.

[ZilphasHatpin]

what are yous going to do in the long run you will have to make a choice at some point

Why? It's perfectly possible to live on your own for your whole life.

[Bluebell28]

Apologies I should have been more clear. The problem is if I go to his house he would expect me to do all the cooking and housework as he has a much bigger income . I could live on my rental income without working.

[Bluebell28]

We are both older have grown up children , none together and he says after being married before he will never do it again.

[easterholidays]

Do you like him? Does he like you? It doesn't sound as though either of you does very much. That is a good reason not to move in together.

[ZilphasHatpin]

So just stay in your own house! Why do you need to live with him?

[5foot5]

Sounds like he wants live in domestic help rather than a partner.

On a side note YABU to start a thread with only the title AIBU. It's better if people have at least some clue what it is going to be about.

[Bluebell28]

ZilphusHatpin I am starting to think that I should stay in my house , he's a bit 1950s but doesn't believe in marriage , we are both divorced.

[Wishiwasmoiradingle2017]

Leave the £500 in a drawer at his home. Alongside a take away menu - and then leave. .

[Jenniferb21]

Hmmm on that income I'd tell him to get a cleaner and or cook and continue to live seperately.

Sounds like you need to rest not take on a big house with chores!

[Bluebell28]

Apologies you're right the title is crap

[Bluebell28]

Thanks I am supposed to be resting more , am not up to full physical strength yet. Laughing at the menu in the drawer suggestion

[ZilphasHatpin]

Why do you even want to live with him in the first place? He doesn't sound at all attractive!