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To think having a dog is worse than having a small child?

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MellieMGrant Wed 08-Mar-17 14:56:11

Not in terms of behaviour or anything, ddog has always been much easier to wrangle than my feral children.

I mean because nosy, bossy know alls comment far more on my dog than they ever did on my toddlers.

I never, for example, got told my baby looks cold and needs a coat, or that I'm feeding them wrong, or that I shouldn't have had them. And certainly not by complete strangers.

But I have met with countless busybodies on dog walks who chime in with 'advice'.

In the last two weeks I have been berated for her not wearing a coat in the rain (it was sunny when we left the house). Told off for leaving her for 30 seconds at the school gate (I usually stay with her but had to nip in). I was chatting to another dog owner when HE got quizzed on why his male dog wasn't neutered.

I've had twenty questions before about where she sleeps, what she eats, how much exercise she gets, whether we went to puppy classes. I've been told I have the wrong lead, that it's too cold for her to be out and that she's obviously tired and needs a rest. I've been asked on the school run why I only bring her in the morning and told that she needs an afternoon walk as well.

It's relentless! Obviously my resting butch face has worn off since my kids have got older and now I seem like someone receptive to criticism dressed up as advice. I'm not.

Is it just me? Or does dog ownership make you fair game for comments?

MellieMGrant Wed 08-Mar-17 14:57:04

Bitch face! Although butch works too.

toffee1000 Wed 08-Mar-17 15:00:30

It seems that whatever you do in life, you will get criticised for it. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. It's bloody irritating.

Aderyn2016 Wed 08-Mar-17 15:01:00

I haven't ever had this. Maybe it's you wink

I think people do talk about dogs - as a nation we seem to be more interested in them than we are in other people's children. If people are rude though, it is okay to tell them to bugger off and mtob.

Ferrisday Wed 08-Mar-17 15:01:19

I had a few "ah, isn't he cute" type of comments
That's all
Mind you, no-one really commented on my baby either, I never had anyone try to touch him or comment on his behaviour or anything

FlyingElbows Wed 08-Mar-17 15:02:41

One of my dogs is terrifyingly vicious so people don't come near us thankfully! He weighs less than two kilos and is tiny but he puts his whole being into being tough and scary. Just smile and ignore, don't join in the mad dog people conversation.

PoisonousSmurf Wed 08-Mar-17 15:04:50

This is what is putting me off ever having a dog. And I've worked with children!

ErrolTheDragon Wed 08-Mar-17 15:05:31

I rarely seem to have been subjected to unwanted advice about either my child or my dog. <checks face>confused. Of course, total strangers do comment, but generally in appreciation or envy, or to comment when we're on a long walk that we've worn his legs down. If I had a pound for every time... I'd have a lot of pounds.

ErrolTheDragon Wed 08-Mar-17 15:07:01

Clarification- the comments are all about dog, not child. I don't have a he-child.

KurriKurri Wed 08-Mar-17 15:12:51

I've had unwanted advice about both in the past - I smile and move on.

Children - my girl looked like a boy why didn't I put bows in her (very small amount of wispy) hair.
I made them walk to far/ I didn't make them walk enough.
My son should be in school because he is tall (despite being only 3 at the time).

With my dog i was told I shouldn't have her on lead in the park (this was her first venture out after a major operation, and I didn't want her over doing it) the 'advisors' enormous dog was off it lead and came bounding across the park, ignoring his cries of 'come back' and nearly knocked my poor little post op jack russell flying.

I ignore all ludicrous advice - and mentally hum the 'fuck off' song.

whippetwoman Wed 08-Mar-17 15:13:38

I feel your pain. My whippet refuses to wear a coat and tries to gnaw it off. So many people tell me he should wear a coat. I know! I do try! He has a coat but won't wear it. Have also been told he's too thin, too hot...

AshesandDust Wed 08-Mar-17 15:31:42

Oh yes, me too. I've been sternly told by a bossy mare to,
'put her down!' confused
It's a toy poodle - she doesn't care for big dogs ever since one
growled at her when she was a puppy. Consequently if she
sees a big dog coming towards us she jumps in my arms.
The latest busy body demanded to know if she is microchipped-
she was in her own front garden at the time (the dog that is)

mrswhiplington Wed 08-Mar-17 15:41:06

whippetwoman we've been told we were not feeding our lurcher enough, he's too thin. No, he's meant to be thin, he's half whippet.

MellieMGrant Wed 08-Mar-17 16:40:34

Oh yes I've been told she's too skinny, asked if she was the runt of the litter, asked with a head tilt if she was microchipped.

It's just rude.

showmeislands Wed 08-Mar-17 16:50:25

How odd! I have two fluffy white medium sized dogs who are now six and have never been asked any questions like that about them! Whenever I'm walking them the only comments ever tend to be along the lines or "are they twins/brother and sister", "how cute" or occasionally "do they go for the throat?" wink

MrsTwix Wed 08-Mar-17 17:00:37

At least you can leave the dog home alone for a short while. :-)

SleightOfMind Wed 08-Mar-17 17:10:05

Not had this with DCs or DDogs but think I'm one of the 'helpful' advisors 😳

I have a bit of a male brain and tend to offer solutions to probs rather than simply empathising.
Sorry! Promise it's kindly meant though.

JonesMalone Wed 08-Mar-17 18:19:11

Ugh! I tell my husband quite often that having a dog is worse than having a kid.
I always get stopped and asked 'how old is she?' 'What breed?' And loads of advice.
I'm pretty sure I'd get more flack smacking my dog in public than smacking a child.
I really dislike the busibodyness of it.

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