Im new to mumsnet and a close friend suggested I see if anyone can help. I just need some support and advice. My husband of 5yr is emotionally abusive to me and has been for years. Ive finally found the inner strength and self worth to leave him, I told him last night and that our 3yr old son would be coming with me. As expected he hit the roof and is shouting about getting custody because I had a minor breakdown 6 weeks ago, mostly caused by him. He is saying I dont stand a chance to have our son because im 'mentally unstable'. This is not true, ive never been more stable and seeing the clear light of day thanks to some amazing relate councelling, but can he use this breakdown against me? I was signed off work for 6 weeks and on antidepressents but coping well now. Im so scared he will get my son full time who definately should not be with his daddy full time due to daddy having anger issues. I feel so upset for my son, despite the issues, he loves having daddy around and thinks the world of him, but it also breaks my heart when he gets upset that daddy is shouting at mummy again. My son has started shouting at me too recently and i believe he is learning this is ok because daddy does it. Its just awful. I feel so disrespected by my husband and son but my son isnt to blame. Has anyone any experience of divorce when a 3yr old is involved, did they get over it, did they resent you? Finally if i take my son from the house to a new place to live without my husbands consent, my husband says he will call the police and have me arressted for kidnap. I assume this is wrong and he cant do that? Thanks so much for any advice.
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Emotionally abusive husband: am I doing the right thing by my son?
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user1472392429 · 08/03/2017 10:06
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