Brief facts
I work pt. I pay a set amount into joint account as 'D'H controls all the finances as he says I'm useless with money. So basically after paying in this set amount I have £X to buy groceries and for anything else I might want.
I recently arranged to see a personal trainer to pass a job related fitness test I'm struggling with. This costs £25 per half hour and the trainer has been v reasonable as I'm on a tight budget and says I can see him once a fortnight to check in with progress and follow a training plan he has set out in between.
This morning DH has found about it and basically gone ballistic to the point of me and DS being in tears, shouting and bawling at me that I'm wasting money, were skint, that he could do it for nothing (train me) etc etc.
He them accused ME of upsetting DS and said DS would never choose to live with me. We have had problems before and I have said I wanted to leave. Right now I feel scared, vulnerable, stupid and deflated.
I feel the trainer knows what he's doing and £50 per month is not unreasonable as an amount to spend on myself, as I'll still be able to buy food etc. And although 'd'h claims we are skint incidentally, there mysteriously always seems to be enough money for his alcohol (which he buys).
Aibu? Am I mad?
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Am I going mad or is this controlling?
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BabbleLands · 08/03/2017 08:37
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