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AIBU?

Are they BU

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gabsdot · 07/03/2017 21:45

I'll start by saying that I am a Christian and as part of my religious beliefs I try to keep the Sabbath day holy. I got to church and don't got to parties, cinema, shopping, sports events etc on Sundays.
Anyway. My niece is also Christian and she follows similar beliefs. There is an event coming up in her school soon and she went to the principal to ask that it not be scheduled to take place on a Sunday as otherwise she didn't feel that she could go due to her religious beliefs. It's the kind of event that can be on any day of the week.
The event schedule has been announced and it's on a Sunday. She's devastated and her parents are furious and talking about how she's being discriminated against etc.
I admire her for making this decision herself and sticking up for what she believes but I really don't think she is being discriminated against. I think her parents (and all the people who commented on her facebook page) ABVU. There are 200 kids in her year at school, you can't suit everyone.
What do you think?

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ilovelamp82 · 07/03/2017 21:48

Of course she's not being discriminated against. What a strange notion.

Squirmy65ghyg · 07/03/2017 21:48

She's being ridiculous. What event is it going to be?

Hellmouth · 07/03/2017 21:49

I think you are right, they are BU. The school can't cater for everyone, and I know Christians who would still attend such events on a Sunday,

booksandcoffee · 07/03/2017 21:50

I think you are right, particularly if there are also Jews and Muslims who would want Saturdays and Fridays kept free, not to mention sporty kids generally playing on Saturdays.

mollymaid16 · 07/03/2017 21:50

Gabsdot I don't think she needs to take Christianity to the extremes. Why can't she go as a one off it won't do no harm, it doesn't make her any less of a Christian, why the big fuss.

Mumzypopz · 07/03/2017 21:52

So she would expect the school to change the date just for her? Absolutely ridiculous and selfish. Surely part of religious belief if stepping aside and being humble, in that 200 other kids can go.

TheOnlyLivingToyInNewYork · 07/03/2017 21:52

She's devastated and her parents are furious and talking about how she's being discriminated against etc

They are those parents. They just love something to complain about! Watch out for the sad face in the Daily Mail with added rant about how if it was a different more foreign sounding religion they would be accommodated.....

FirstSeemItThenBeIt · 07/03/2017 21:57

Devastated?!

Either she goes to the event or goes t church. Her whole life is going to contain a series of such choices surely, if her beliefs are very strong. May as well get on with it. Her parents sound like they're whipping things up too.

mollymaid16 · 07/03/2017 21:58

Just want to add I am Christian and you can go to mass on Saturday night so why doesn't she do that instead then go to the event on the Sunday

NoFuckingRoomOnMyBroom · 07/03/2017 21:58

Of course they are being ridiculous, your neice isn't the only child the school has to consider.

harderandharder2breathe · 07/03/2017 21:59

Sibu

She isn't being discriminated against, the only person stopping her going to the event is herself!

Willow2017 · 07/03/2017 22:39

Of course they are, the whole school doesnt revolve around thier precious child! They sound deranged. 199 other kids have to do something on another day cos they say so?

She might as well get used to it as the world doesnt revolve around her either whatever her beliefs are. The world doesnt stop on a Sunday. Where would they be without people working on a Sunday?

miserableandinpain · 07/03/2017 23:14

Parents are vu.
We are a muslim household. Dh didnt go to friday prayers so he could see ds1 in the christmas carol concert! He did them at home instead. So yeah sometimes we have to be flexible

arethereanyleftatall · 07/03/2017 23:19

Absolutely ridiculous.
I cannot believe she went to the head teacher to ask them to schedule an event around her. That is breathtakingly arrogant.

PennyPickle · 07/03/2017 23:22

Ridiculous! My son is a musician and plays most weekends. He is also a rugby player. Sometimes he has a rugby match and a music event on the same day. He chooses which is most important to him on the day. The same as everyone else. Life is about making decisions.

Jux · 07/03/2017 23:47

There's no problem with exceptions. Her parents are being ridiculous.

melj1213 · 08/03/2017 00:15

YABU

Your DN can choose to keep her Sundays for her faith, that is not unreasonable.

Her school can schedule events on Sundays, they are not unreasonable.

Your DN requesting that events aren't scheduled for Sundays because of her religious choices is very unreasonable.

If an event is on a Sunday she can choose which is more important, her religious decision to keep Sundays for worship or her attendance at the event. It is her choice where she compromises on her choices but she can't force them on other people.

I am Catholic, we go to church on Sundays but I also work in retail so occasionally I have to do Sunday shifts and if I'm in work on a Saturday I don't have a choice but to use Sundays for activities or even the weekly shop because it is literally the only day of the wek where it is physically possible for me to do things. There's no way I'd ever try and dictate when other people held their events.

MidniteScribbler · 08/03/2017 00:19

There is no discrimination, because there are plenty of other times she could go to church that week. You can't always schedule everything to suit every person.

PeaFaceMcgee · 08/03/2017 00:21

They are being utterly ridiculous. Nobody is forcing them to hold their beliefs and they should recognise that they don't trump other people's convenience.

PeaFaceMcgee · 08/03/2017 00:22

I hope the school did it deliberately, in fact.

dulcostar · 08/03/2017 00:34

They shouldn't have had it on a Sunday which is her sabbath day, why didn't they do Saturday instead? Hmm that would upset the Jewish girl. They could do Friday? But then the Muslim boy might be offended......

There's no way to please everybody, and the school would have had specific reasons for having it on that day, extra staffing etc. If it coincides with your dn's religious beliefs, then it is her choice to make whether she goes or not. I don't see why on earth her parents are complaining.

BillSykesDog · 08/03/2017 00:38

I suspect this didn't actually happen concerning a Christian...

Sundance01 · 08/03/2017 01:42

Slightly different view - if this is a religious school and actively practising that religion is part of being able to attend that school then they should not schedule activities on that religions day.
But if it's a bog standard school then they have to balance the needs of all the kids and pick the day that suits the most people and most importantly the people organising it.

Jellybellyqueen · 08/03/2017 02:16

I can't even believe this needs to be asked. Yes, she is so individually important to the universe that everything should be scheduled according to her own personal beliefs. And then dress it up as religious discrimination if it isn't .
That family are giving (sensible and tolerant) Christians a bad name!!

emmyrose2000 · 08/03/2017 07:06

Niece is unbelievably arrogant and unreasonable.

Her religious beliefs are of no importance to the school or wider world. She needs to get over herself. The particular religion is irrelevant; I'd have the same opinion whatever religion it was.

In fact, it doesn't even have to be about religion - the fact that Niece thought the event should be scheduled around her own personal circumstances is mind blowingly selfish, egotistical and arrogant.

Has she always been this self absorbed? Judging by her parents' attitude in this matter I wouldn't be at all surprised to hear that she's been brought up as the specialist of special snowflakes.

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