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I feel utterly hacked off and fed up

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SerialReJoiner · 07/03/2017 20:49

I spend ages trying to feed my family healthy, nutritious meals and am undermined at every corner. By schools (heavy puddings, constant birthdays and snacks, etc etc), friends and relatives, even dh. "It's just the one" "we were having a bit of fun" "we just wanted to spend some time together" "it's a special occasion" blah blah blah. Add all those up and it's just a constant stream of crap being funnelled into my DC's mouths.

Add in my cooking efforts while trying to juggle a small baby, and the DC aren't hungry so won't eat. Or turn their noses up at it. Or pretend they'll save it for later. Or dh just goes and gets a pizza instead.

I feel completely fed up with trying to teach them healthy habits.

I GIVE UP

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TheUnicorns · 07/03/2017 21:55

Keep ploughing. MIL was much like this when OH was younger. He HATED it and never paid much attention, particularly in his teen years when he had his own money.

However, now he's a grown adult those lessons have stuck with him and form the basis of what he considers normal, healthy food. Those formative years left an impression on him Smile

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SerialReJoiner · 07/03/2017 22:08

Thank you for that. Really gives me hope.

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Darlink · 07/03/2017 22:32

Yup . I feel your pain.
I've almost stopped trying.

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scaryteacher · 07/03/2017 23:17

It does go in - ds was in his second year at university and his first year living out, and having to cook. He rang me one night and said in a shocked tone that a couple of housemates didn't eat anything green!

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TheUnicorns · 08/03/2017 00:30

Just remember you're playing the long game!

Wine for the stress!

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KeiraH · 08/03/2017 06:45

Yes! I ve lost count how many times I ve cried when they refuse to eat meals that I ve made for them. I try to make sure they eat well. Spend hours in a kitchen making things from scratch and it does hurt when they turn their noses up. I just keep telling myself that they ll appreciate it when they are older but it is so discouraging.

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Groovee · 08/03/2017 07:24

My kids are teens. They eat 99.9% of what I place in front of them and will try new things. A completely different story from when they were under 5. Just keep at it and things will get easier.

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SerialReJoiner · 08/03/2017 12:45

Thank you for the commiserations and the hope that what I'm doing is actually worthwhile. Have just decanted last night's curry into four freezer tubs. THEY WILL EAT IT. But maybe when I'm not quite so emotionally het up about it. Hah.

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flipflap75 · 08/03/2017 13:05

This is an excellent thread. Truly encouraging for the downtrodden (me too!).

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B1rdonawire · 08/03/2017 13:16

I found I was marginally less intense about it by "officially" designating one night a week as Off. I'm an LP so there's no-one to delegate to, but Friday nights I don't cook. We have something via the freezer/microwave, or if the DC reject that idea, they can have a picnic type meal that they more or less self-assemble. I genuinely don't think one meal out of 21 where they might not get enough veg is going to be the end of the world. It also means I get to eat something they wouldn't like Grin

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SerialReJoiner · 08/03/2017 14:47

B1rdonawire excellent plan. I will implement something of the same, I think!

flipflap75 it does help to know there are others muddling along in this endeavour....Flowers

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