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To find it really difficult to get remotely excited about friends getting married when they already have DC with that person?

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CookiesFromTheCookieJar Tue 07-Mar-17 20:14:09

Anyone else?

Floggingmolly Tue 07-Mar-17 20:15:05


MrsJayy Tue 07-Mar-17 20:15:09

Anyone else what ?

Lilaclily Tue 07-Mar-17 20:16:01


Trills Tue 07-Mar-17 20:16:41

I am not exactly "excited" about any wedding.

Being pleased for someone and thinking it is nice - whether they have children is irrelevant.

NotStoppedAllDay Tue 07-Mar-17 20:16:47

I don't get excited about weddings full stop!!

acquiescence Tue 07-Mar-17 20:16:57

Yabu! My best friend is getting married this year to her long term partner. It is lovely, the children and involved and it makes it all the more special.

Are you religious or just very traditional and think that marriage should come before procreation?

AlmostAJillSandwich Tue 07-Mar-17 20:16:59

So you expect everyone to get married before having a child, and that weddings are solely intended as a promise to have children?

fatmummy87 Tue 07-Mar-17 20:16:59


pigsknickers Tue 07-Mar-17 20:17:13

I personally love it when people who have kids together decide to get married. They've done one-off the most stressful, exhausting, relationship-testing things and still want to spend the rest of their lives together - what's not brilliant about that?

Dontactlikeyouknowme Tue 07-Mar-17 20:17:19

I'm sure they don't care whether you are excited or not.

Mamabear14 Tue 07-Mar-17 20:17:20

I was going to type a ranty answer but I'm just going with YABU.

LaContessaDiPlump Tue 07-Mar-17 20:17:33

A bit. But I paste a smile on and act excited for them, because that is the nice thing to do and they'd be a bit crestfallen if I didn't treat their life event like the big thing it is.... to them.

Trills Tue 07-Mar-17 20:17:35

It sounds as if you have a particular vision of what a wedding "should" be.

MadMags Tue 07-Mar-17 20:17:51

Anyone else...???

JCo24 Tue 07-Mar-17 20:17:54

So you only get excited about a marriage if there is a chance of children happening afterwards? Are you usually so concerned about the aftermath of people engaging in coitus?

Bambambini Tue 07-Mar-17 20:18:34

It's not the same if they have been living together for years and have kids. Still happy for them and happy to celebrate the occasion though. Been to a very small simple wedding like this and it was lovely.

EssentialHummus Tue 07-Mar-17 20:18:47

I agree with pigs actually. Plus I'm a sucker for a good party.

kenology Tue 07-Mar-17 20:19:21


Either you get excited about weddings or you don't, surely whether they already have children has nothing to do with it?

Dontactlikeyouknowme Tue 07-Mar-17 20:19:42

I'm always excited for a party.

kel1493 Tue 07-Mar-17 20:19:46

I would be happy for a friend getting married, regardless of if they have children or not.
Personally I wanted to be married before I had children, but I don't think it matters either way generally. It's just what I wanted

MrsJayy Tue 07-Mar-17 20:20:19

I had a child before my wedding people came smiled had a nice day and went home likeall weddings go

Honeyandfizz Tue 07-Mar-17 20:20:52

Nope just you.

scoobydooagain Tue 07-Mar-17 20:21:04

can't say I get excited about any wedding, nice for the couple but really that's about it.

Bigbertha123 Tue 07-Mar-17 20:21:17

YAB totally U, not very nice at all. biscuit

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