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Can you please help me settle an argument between my children?

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TheCuntess Sun 05-Mar-17 19:09:45

Because we have tried and failed.

Our children share a room. The eldest bought an Xbox with his birthday money a couple of years ago.
We have room for one TV in their room and no more. The youngest loves it, wants to have a go, wants his own, wants to share.
The eldest, give him his due is very generous but like most people has his limits.
Ordinarily we'd tell the youngest to save for his own and this would work but this is a gaming thing and I don't know what to do.

TheCuntess Sun 05-Mar-17 19:10:47

And no absolutely no gaming in the living room. Line already drawn.

allegretto Sun 05-Mar-17 19:11:39

I would take the tv out of the room! I'm not in favour of having tvs in rooms anyway but I don't think it's fair on your youngest this way.

Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 Sun 05-Mar-17 19:12:52

Our ds 15 has a new x box +expensive bloody games he paid for with his bday cash. Ds 13+8 are allowed on if he is in his room with them but not unsupervised.
Maybe a compromise for you too.

isthistoonosy Sun 05-Mar-17 19:13:11

Youngest should pay towards the Xbox or they buy the next version together.

Auspiciouspanda Sun 05-Mar-17 19:16:13

He needs to either buy his own or buy 50% of his brothers then share the tv.

Trifleorbust Sun 05-Mar-17 19:16:50

I say share. It is unfair to allow one sibling to buy something that is used in a shared bedroom and uses a shared TV, then say one sibling can't use it.

TheCuntess Sun 05-Mar-17 19:17:54

allegegretto, I said that when my children were toddlers. Do you have male kids 10+ and still refuse? If so, please tell me your rules! im genuinely listening.

I like your thinking isthisoonosy

ChuckDaffodils Sun 05-Mar-17 19:18:40

What is the actual problem?

ZilphasHatpin Sun 05-Mar-17 19:18:52

I'm not seeing the problem. Eldest already shares. Youngest can't have free reign, it isn't his. Youngest needs to accept this. What is the issue?

UnicornButtplug Sun 05-Mar-17 19:19:46

I think your younger ds should buy his own or ask for one as a birthday/Christmas gift and they get one hour each per evening.

TheCuntess Sun 05-Mar-17 19:20:01

I'm loving 'buying 50%' of it. This makes such good sense. Its the youngest birthday soon as well.

Ecureuil Sun 05-Mar-17 19:20:15

Doesn't seem like a problem to me. Eldest shares with youngest.

HermioneJeanGranger Sun 05-Mar-17 19:20:30

Is there another room DS can have the Xbox in? I don't think it's fair that he's saved up for one and is being forced to share it with his younger brother.

ZilphasHatpin Sun 05-Mar-17 19:20:43

Do you have male kids 10+ and still refuse? If so, please tell me your rules! im genuinely listening.

What does their age and more importantly their sex have to do with it? confused You just say "no". They're children in your house. You set the rules. If you don't want tv inn bedrooms then don't have them. I don't. Mine are males aged 11 and 7 if it matters.

TheCuntess Sun 05-Mar-17 19:21:04

The problem is, I don't like tantrums 4 times a day.

That's thread enough.

FatOldBag Sun 05-Mar-17 19:21:18

They need to share. What's the argument?

ZilphasHatpin Sun 05-Mar-17 19:22:05

You have children over 10 tantrumming?

Ecureuil Sun 05-Mar-17 19:22:23

I guess what I mean is why is the youngest having tantrums if his brother is, as per your OP, sharing with him?

TheCuntess Sun 05-Mar-17 19:22:35

I pointed out their sex just to fuck you off. Its mumsnet.

lavenderandrose Sun 05-Mar-17 19:23:40

I think it's unfair for one child to have to share his space with an x box he isn't allowed on.

ZilphasHatpin Sun 05-Mar-17 19:24:03

grin knob

Sparklingbrook Sun 05-Mar-17 19:25:26

My teens both have TVs and PS4s in their rooms. If they had to share there would be major problems and DH and I don't want them gaming in the living room as we use that TV.

I am not sure what I would do in your situation OP, if there's no room for another TV.

Notsure1234 Sun 05-Mar-17 19:25:36

I think it's unfair to allow one child to have a consol knowing it's unacheivable for the younger child due to practical/space issues.

It's also not fair to expect oldest to share 50% when he paid for it. Nor do I think it's fair for youngest to have his game time dictated by eldest.

I like the idea of youngest buying 50% then they can have equal access

DJBaggySmalls Sun 05-Mar-17 19:26:11

What HermioneJeanGranger said. Does the eldest want to sell 50% of it?

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