DD is 3.5. She has been away from us overnight plenty of times but only at her grandparents. We have a niece who is 5, DD is very close to her. Niece is DH's brother's little girl, he and the mum have split but because BIL is quite elusive we see her mainly through her mum, who for purposes of ease I'll refer to as SIL!
Went to see DN and SIL yesterday and SIL promised DD a sleepover next weekend at hers. She said this without asking me first and DD is very excited and keeps going on about it.
Thing is, I'm not happy about her going as to be frank I don't trust SIL all that much. She's certainly not a bad parent but it's a few things that make me a bit worried. Yesterday DN brought through DVDs and asked if her and DD could watch them in her room. They were Ghost Rider, Gremlins (both 15 certificates) and Kill Bill (18). I said absolutely not they're both too young, and SIL backed me up (we sent them away with finding Dory) but told me she lets DN watch them. She's been watching Gremlins since age 2 apparently and is fine with it and they have 'horror movie nights' together.
BTW DN has regular nightmares, which SIL blames BIL on as he's religious and has been teaching her about God. Personally I think it's more likely as a result of these movies!
We had to speak to BIL not long ago as DN was at ours and she drew a picture of a knife with blood on it and told DD that if she stabbed herself in the stomach with a knife she would go to heaven. No idea where his came from but we were shocked and concerned.
We love DN and it's not her fault of course but AIBU in not wanting to send her for a sleepover, is SIL's lax attitude to horror movies enough to justify my concern? I'm sure SIL wouldn't allow them to watch horror movies if I mentioned it but I can't be 100% certain. DN has a DVD player in her room, I wouldn't put it past them to sneak DVDs on past bedtime (DN has slept over here a few times and we've found them up and playing with dolls at midnight )
Also if IANBU how do I say to SIL that DD cant come over? My first thought was to say DN can come here instead but we have a 6 week old and the girls won't go to bed til god knows when so will probably be hard work!
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Or am I being precious about not sending DD to this sleepover?
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CherryChasingDotMuncher · 05/03/2017 09:58
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