AIBU to not demand CM from my daughters dad? he isn't in a great financial situation at the moment. He works full time but is on a reduced wage as his employer pays for his college course (he's in his 30's so quite lucky to have the opportunity) he owns a property but rents it out to cover the mortgage and has moved back to his mums to reduce his outgoings. he downgraded his car to get a cheap runaround and generally struggles each week to cover his bills. I work part time and my partner has his own business. we are by no means 'loaded' but are very comfortable. Have a lovely home, 2 cars and can afford to take the kids for days out and treats etc without it affecting our bills. understandably my partner is frustrated with the situation, especially because we pay nearly £300 a month in maintenance payments to his ex wife for his 2 kids. Mine and my exes daughter is 3 so gets 15 hours a week free childcare, the extra hours she does come to a total cost of £60 per month, myself and my ex pay half each to cover this. Taking in to account my ex partners wage, if I was to enforce payments through CSA he would be expected to pay around £100 a month, I just don't feel it would be morally right to ask for his money when I don't particularly 'need' it and my ex would really see a difference (that would be his monthly food spend for example) He is a great dad, has our daughter 3 nights a week, she loves spending time with him and he does what he can, the occasional cinema trip or free/cheap things like the park or play centres. Am I wrong to think he is doing enough and that's ok for now? He has every intention of paying more once he is qualified and has a better income (around 18 months from now)
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KarmaNoMore ·
05/03/2017 10:39
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