Just looking for some advice really
Had made a friend godmother to DD before she was born last June. We had met through work and become very close, best friends really so it seemed fitting.
When DD was born godmother was straight around with gifts and cards and was just lovely ( she did post that she had visited on my Facebook page which caused some issues with family who hadn't but it was no big deal)
Anyway around DD turning 3 months I started to enquirer about going back to work where I had work previously for 2 years before baby, this then became a matter of maternity discrimination where they had no job for me to return to and that's where things got sticky...
The friend was very much of the whole I'm not taking sides route whilst clearly taking the side of the previous employer. Of course I never expected her to leave her job but quite honestly I did not need to hear all the gossip and day to day goings on when I had been left jobless. I found the whole situation incredibly stressful and upsetting and really needed some support.
Since all this DD was christened and although nothing was said it did start to flicker in my head that maybe this godmother thing was a mistake and family would be better. Clearly far to late to leave it we pressed on then at the christening do my mother and aunt were bickering (Italian family no big deal!!) and the friend loudly laughed and said she was just watching the "sideshow" of them rowing both my mother and aunt heard this and thought it was really rude.
Nothing was mentioned of this after as it was DDs special day and I wasn't going to let it be spoiled.
Now a few months later we have little contact going from talking on a daily basis maybe once every two weeks or so. As godmother she has never looked after DD and DD finds her unfamiliar if we do meet up.
The employment issue continues to escalate to the point legal advice was taken on my part.
The advice I need really is what to do now. Everytime we meet I have to hear all about the place I worked, she remains firm friends with the boss and his wife so I also feel there is a stream of communication on my business to them also.
I don't know whether to proceed being friends and say I don't want to hear about the company and want them knowing my business or call it quits, be polite but let the friendship fizzle out as it has been and forget DD has two godmothers?
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To be rethinking godmother choice?
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user1470064958 · 04/03/2017 22:19
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