My father was widowed three years ago, and is finally ready to sell the family home which he has realised is too big for him to look after on his own. He's found somewhere much smaller, close to friends and family, and is absolutely desperate to get it. He's really pleased with the way he's cleaned and decorated his house to sell it, and has been told by the estate agents that he doesn't need to empty it as house buyers like to see things in situ.
The trouble is, this advice means he absolutely refuses to clear the house at all. Downstairs is clean and mostly tidy, but rammed full of so much furniture that every room looks too small, in photos and in person (some rooms have two dressers, four bookcases, three coffee tables each etc), plus tonnes of family photos and knickknacks absolutely everywhere; upstairs, his office (which should be a decent-sized single bedroom) you can only stand in a square-metre space due to all the furniture, paperwork, shelves and desks, while the other bedrooms are full of even more dressers, chests of drawers, book cases, wardrobes, dressing tables, card tables, more coffee tables, and decades of books, pictures, vases, bedding, clothes, and more knickknacks.
Because he's very clean and everything is dust-free and well-kept, he doesn't see that any of it might be putting buyers off - he thinks it shows this family home has personality, while my brother and I think most people wouldn't even bother to view it for more than a minute or two. In six months (I know it's not the hottest property market in the world right now), he hasn't had a single offer.
I want to mind my own business and just help him if he asks for it (he's a grown-up, can take care of himself, and I've got a busy life of my own) but he calls me frequently, depressed and distressed that his house is getting no offers and he's going to lose the house he wants. But if my brother and I try to suggest helping him put things in storage not even culling them for good he gets extremely upset and insists that his home is just as he likes it and he doesn't want to live like a monk in an empty cell.
Please help! House moving is so stressful at the best of times -- how can I either step back and not let his stress affect me, or help him sell this one and get into the house he wants? (Or both?!)
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HouseMoveHairPulling · 03/03/2017 19:53
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