Hi all,
So a really odd, and random one for me but being made to feel like i'm slightly crazy.
So a close friend of mine whom i've known some years has fallen out with me big style because i've had to bail her out to pay her bills on multiple occasions, and this last time i've refused!
I told her very politely that even though she knows I will help her out where I can that she cannot expect me to bail her out every time she is short on funds, with little notice, and needs to plan her own finances better.
She's had a total melt down, gone around and told all our other friends that i'm a bad friend and that i've pushed her away. I tried to politely tell her that as a friend I wouldn't put her in the same position she has put me in month on end when i'm not exactly rich myself.
She is now completely refusing to speak to me, and a couple of friends have basically said that I should have just carried on doing it to keep her happy!!
Don't get me wrong she does pay me back... Eventually... However I didn't think I was being unreasonable to ask her, as an adult with her own family, to keep her own finances under control and not to use me as a bank when she is short? I was so set that I was right until other friends said that I should basically just accept it and help her...
So.... AIBU?
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Songbirdthatsings · 03/03/2017 15:54
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