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AIBU?

A 27 year old woman dating an 18 year old man

237 replies

user1488318718 · 02/03/2017 22:43

What would you make of this situation?

Woman has known man since he was born. Their parents are best friends and so for years we're practically brought up together.

Then aged 9, they went to different schools and had ceased to see each other at all. Aged 27, woman meets the mans sister and they become close. She introduces woman to her brother and after several months there seems to be an attraction from both.

Woman is in a similar profession to the university course man has just started.

Only problem is, while man is very mature, he's only 18. She is 27 and 28 in a few weeks.

Wrong on many different levels and an absolute no go?

Aibu, to say it is.

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BastardGoDarkly · 02/03/2017 22:46

So what? Why is it wrong? They're both adults

user1488318718 · 02/03/2017 22:48

If she's 10 years older and he's only 18. They met a few months ago when he was only 17.

It's legal, but I'm not sure that makes it right. But we shall see. He just seems too young for someone soon to be hitting 30!

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MrsDustyBusty · 02/03/2017 22:48

I don't really understand what a woman of nearly 30 would see in a lad barely out of his teens. I can't imagine they have much in common and you think she'd have the maturity and life experience to get that.

PositivePeggyNans · 02/03/2017 22:48

I don't see the problem its a bit closed minded to completely write someone off because of an age gap of nine years.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 02/03/2017 22:49

I suppose it is a bit strange someone going out with some one they've known since they were born. However they're both legal. A fact not my opinion.
So why is it wrong on so many levels. As long as they're both happy.

FritzDonovan · 02/03/2017 22:49

Not wrong as it stands, unless woman would be his lecturer or something. Ppl would think nothing of the same age gap later in life.

aintnobodygottimefodat · 02/03/2017 22:50

My 18yr old cousin recently had a lot of attention from a 29yr old woman. She is the same age as me and I cannot wrap my head around how she can be attracted to someone so much younger. IMO the older the couple are, any age gaps are not as significant, but to me an 18yo is just a boy.

So yeah, bottom line, YANBU. It's a bit ick.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 02/03/2017 22:50

The thing is though. If 2 people want to be together. Good luck trying to stop them

PenelopeParmesan · 02/03/2017 22:50

It's not wrong, but at that age an 18 yo lad would have had absolutely zero appeal for me.

BastardGoDarkly · 02/03/2017 22:51

'hitting 30' '17 a few months ago' why are you trying so hard to make this sound outrageous?

Is he your son?

downwardfacingdog · 02/03/2017 22:52

I think you need to explain what levels it's wrong on but yabu I think. Mind your own business!

TheOnlyLivingBoyinNewCork · 02/03/2017 22:53

Wouldn't be for me, but plenty of 18 year women go out with 28 year old men. This is no different, and its none of your business.

Schwifty · 02/03/2017 22:53

I think there's a bit more to this story OP, do you have some kind of specific concern?

Pettywoman · 02/03/2017 22:54

I wouldn't bat an eyelid. They're both adults, it will either work out or it won't. It's their business.

AnyFucker · 02/03/2017 22:54

How are you connected to these people ?

glitterazi · 02/03/2017 22:54

The dating someone you knew as a baby and grew up with from the age of 9 for a while?
That bit I find weird.

The 18 year old dating a 27 year old though? No. At 18 you're a young adult.

KarmaKit · 02/03/2017 22:54

I personally at 30 cannot ever see myself being interested in an 18 year old. Even at 15 I could see the vast majority of 18 year olds were hopelessly immature!
However, obviously something is working for them. It may last, it may not.

I don't think I'd feel any differently if the sexes were reversed either, before anyone asks I will admit I feel a bit weird about my best friend's sister having met her bloke at 15/16, he was in his thirties. But she's in her thirties now and they're still together!

PeppaPigTastesLikeBacon · 02/03/2017 22:56

I think it's none of your business. There is an age gap between DP and me and I was young (but legal) when we got together. Still together 10+yrs later with a home and family.

Funnily enough we came across a lot of judgemental people like you OP too!

Crispbutty · 02/03/2017 22:57

"Then aged 9, they went to different schools and had ceased to see each other at all. "

When who was 9?

Isthismummy · 02/03/2017 22:58

Yes yabu.

I met my dp when he was 18 (although we didn't get together until he was 20) That was nearly 5 years ago and we are getting married in the summer.

I'm 15 years older than him.

Everyone is different and sometimes people just fall for each other. I fought my feelings for dp for a long time because I worried about being judged by society. In reality nobody cares and we frequently get told what a lovely couple we are

BastardGoDarkly · 02/03/2017 22:58

No, at 27 I wouldn't have been interested in an 18 year old, but I'm struggling to see all these 'many levels of wrong' ?

Bottlesoflove · 02/03/2017 23:01

I am 33 and recently was dating a man who was 42. When I was 19 I was with a guy who was 29. I really don't see the problem tbh...

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MadameJosephine · 02/03/2017 23:02

I fail to see the problem When I was 18 my boyfriend was 27, we dated for almost 2 years.

ArmySal · 02/03/2017 23:02

The school thing is odd, they wouldn't have gone to primary or high school together with that age gap?

WiddlinDiddling · 02/03/2017 23:03

I wouldn't, I can't imagine meeting an 18 year old who is 'on my level' as a nearly 37 year old with a LOT of life experience...

But I am not them, and YOU are not them - not your problem, not your business and definitely not your place to say anything at all.

STFU and let them get on with their own lives!

YADefinitelyBU and a massive judgeypants too!

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