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facebook stranger contacting me .... would you?

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Sparklezz Thu 02-Mar-17 10:35:36

So I joined a single mums group on facebook over the weekend. Never joined this kind of thing before and I wanted to see if I could perhaps meet some new friends.
Last night though I got a message saying "hi". thought nothing of it and responded thinking it might be a work related thing or even a single mum. turns out that its a guy wanting to see if I am single!!! Said he found my name on the single mum group but his name isn't even on there.
I find it odd and a bit Jeremy kyle (sorry) above all a bit weird. His profile says nothing about him, not even a picture so that is even stranger but I know he must have had a look at my stuff to contact me.
Being the nosey person that I am will quiz him some more before a block him. What do you think, and what would you do?

HirplesWithHaggis Thu 02-Mar-17 10:39:45

Well, you can play along for a while if it amuses you, but ask yourself what kind of guy stalks single mum groups and has no profile content? Your gut feeling is that he's weird, I'd go with that.

ChasedByBees Thu 02-Mar-17 10:40:24

I wouldn't quiz him. Don't give him any attention.

SquatBetty Thu 02-Mar-17 10:40:56

Sounds like a very creepy guy if he's trawling single mum Facebook groups If he wants to meet single females why not join a dating site?

I'd just block him straight away and not waste my time responding

FlaviaAlbia Thu 02-Mar-17 10:41:10

Block and delete immediately.

He may as well have put out a sign saying hoping to find someone vulnerable or desperate enough to give them either sex or access to children...

onalongsabbatical Thu 02-Mar-17 10:42:11

What would I do? Run. Not answer. Sorry.
His name isn't on the group and his profile says nothing about him?
Warning signs.
Wanting to see if you're single?
Quiz him all you like, but I reckon he's big big trouble, he's not approaching you in an open human hi, this is me, way. Your instincts tell you he's weird You have good instincts, why would you override them?
Above all, don't give him any info about your location. Seriously, what you've said worries me.

ShowMePotatoSalad Thu 02-Mar-17 10:42:38

Block straight away. You won't be the only woman he's contacted.

BettyBaggins Thu 02-Mar-17 10:42:48

I might be inclined to mention it to the administrator of the fb group too. Sounds like the guy has another fb account as a woman.

sonjadog Thu 02-Mar-17 10:43:21

I would ignore. He sounds seriously creepy. Or it is a fake profile and he will shortly ask you if you could give him your bank details so he can transfer 13 million dollars he´s just inherited from an unknown uncle.

Justanothernameonthepage Thu 02-Mar-17 10:43:57

No no no! This is dodgy on so many levels. Either this is a fake profile for a simple reason like a scam/cheating or for something much darker. I'd also alert the admin of the group so they can look at changing the group settings.

Lespritdelsietanner Thu 02-Mar-17 10:44:01

I wouldn't go there. Not at all. I'm afraid I would be extremely suspicious of a man who is looking to score on a single mother's group.

WorraLiberty Thu 02-Mar-17 10:44:23

Report to admin and then block him.

He won't be the first chancer, sniffing round single Mums, thinking he can get his feet under the table in your home.

Also if his name isn't on there, he's probably been kicked out before for this behaviour.

StrawberryShortcake32 Thu 02-Mar-17 10:44:28

Message him back with nothing but silence of the lambs quotes. See how long it takes him to notice.
Hello Clarice

ageingrunner Thu 02-Mar-17 10:45:00

No no no. Not someone stalking single mum groups. Now why would someone do that? Not for any reason that isn't sinister as fuck, that's for sure.

HelenaGWells Thu 02-Mar-17 10:47:00

I would also block and also mention it in the group so other mums are aware. A guy who stalks FB groups specifically for single mums doesn't send out an encouraging message to me, especially if the profile they have is essentially blank. Creepy and also potentially dangerous. Steer well clear.

TheOnlyLivingBoyinNewCork Thu 02-Mar-17 10:49:07

Sort out your FB security.

Sparklezz Thu 02-Mar-17 10:50:16

I know, seriously strange. I am thinking of telling admin. Just to say I am not interested in him at all im not that would be insane. i wish i knew some silence of the lambs quotes maybe i should just quote Donald Trump that is enough to put anyone off!

Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 Thu 02-Mar-17 10:52:57

Have you asked him why he is browsing a single dm group pics??

WorraLiberty Thu 02-Mar-17 10:55:31

Why are you 'thinking' of telling admin?

Just drop them a quick message and block the guy.

Job done.

He's just one of literally millions of FB pests. I used to get messages and requests from mostly Turkish guys, for some unfathomable reason when I first joined. Then I quickly learned about the security settings.

It's not a problem now.

sonjadog Thu 02-Mar-17 10:55:59

Write back:

Trying to target single mums. Sad.

unfortunateevents Thu 02-Mar-17 11:05:38

Why engage at all? Just block him.

ems137 Thu 02-Mar-17 11:10:28

Is it just me that thinks it could be more sinister than a guy wanting to sleep with you?

This is how pedophile (sp) groomers work! I've heard a few stories about men like that. Please don't trust him, block and report to admin!

At best he's a weirdo thinking single mums are easy pickings for a shag, at worst he's a dirty pervert wanting to get close to children.

SimonSmithsAmazingDancingBear Thu 02-Mar-17 11:11:01

I wouldn't respond with anything. I'd block and review your your privacy status, if I were you.

The world is full of sad chancers like this. Don't feed them by replying.

WorraLiberty Thu 02-Mar-17 11:12:04

Could be anything, we'll never know.

I agree with unfortunateevents though.

He's seeking attention, so why make the message worth his while by replying?

WorraLiberty Thu 02-Mar-17 11:12:29

Sorry, that was to ems post.

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