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DD has no confidence

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queenofshihtzus · 01/03/2017 21:49

This isn't really AIBU more WWUD?

My DD is eight. When she was small she was incredibly confident, nothing stopped her. She was feisty and determined. She started school with her head held high and then it all went wrong. Within a few weeks, she was sobbing in school, head injuries in school - three in a week once. I spoke to school and they weren't interested. Turned out she was being bullied. So after about two terms I moved her. She was much happier at her second school. When she'd been there fore a year dh got another job in a different part of the country. So we moved area, DD started a new school, her third at aged six. She has been here for two years, it's a very small primary school, less than 100 children. But DD is still crippled with self doubt and a lack of confidence. I've spoke to her teacher several times but we don't seem to be getting anywhere. DD has started to refuse to join after school clubs. I've tried to find her things to do away from school so she has some new friendswith limited success. I realise that she's growing up so is becoming more self aware but she constantly compares herself unfavourably to others at school. Nothing I say will reassure her. I've tried - 'girls days' (just me and DD), lots of hugs, play dates etc I'm not the most confident of people myself, it's been something that has troubled me for all of my life and I'm conscious she's mirroring me. This is the last thing I want. How on earth do I help her? She's a clever, pretty and kind little girl. What can I do to help her?

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WonkoTheSane42 · 01/03/2017 21:52

I don't have any great suggestions, but they say that martial arts do wonders for the self esteem - and it would have the dual effect of teaching her some self defence as well. Would she be interested in karate etc.?

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BettyBaggins · 01/03/2017 22:00

Poor little pickle ~ Does she maybe have one friend in class that you can invite over for play dates to encourage a deeper friendship?

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TartYvette · 01/03/2017 22:00

I read an article years ago by a child psychologist who said find something (anything) they are good at and get them involved with that, it seems a sensible suggestion.