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1 kind of
3 and 6 definitely
What provisions did you make for her sleeping arrangements. If the answer is none then YABU on the that point

There's a spare room set up for her to sleep in which she has done on other occasions (including going for nap while supervising DC so I guess that's point 7!)

That's a lot of issues. You need a new Nanny

3 and 6 would annoy me.

I'm not a parent (got nieces and nephews) but I think numbers 3 and 4 would bother me most. There's no excuse for tardiness, especially when it relates to getting children to school and WTH is the nanny doing a) sharing a bed with your child and b) sleeping in your bed? Let alone together?!?! Big no-no from me!

The others are a pain and I would have a word, but in truth, if any of these things happened regularly I'd be finding a new nanny.

I'd have a definite issue with 1,3 and 6

2 depends - what arrangements do you make for her food? I'd expect to feed a nanny. What sort of toiletries do you mean?

4 depends on context really. Why did she do it?

5 I'd not have an issue with.

All of them I wouldnt employ her

6&3
And 1 if child is 6 or under

All of them, especially 3. 4 is very odd. Unless the DC adored him/her I'd be looking for a replacement.

I am a nanny.

1 kind of. It's very rare I go immediately out after a 13 hour working day but sometimes I will get myself sorted while the kids get ready for bed. Am talking under 4s.

2 is fine
3 is a big one
4 hmm a toughie I have been known to do so in long term jobs if little one poorly or missing mum but generally I'm all for the I'll see you in 12 hours go to sleep approach
5 I work 13 hour days I very rarely need to go to the doctors I'm not going to ask parents to come home if I can take the kids. Last doctors appt was perforated eardrum
6 yes I'd have a problem with that

All of them, they're taking the piss and I'd give notice.

4 I've done twice in 8 years nannying

What is number 2 about? Just a sandwich for lunch and hand washing or more than that?

What hours does she work and what are you paying? I ask because if you are paying minimum wage for long hours, then I suspect this would be inevitable. If you are paying a decent wage for reasonable hours, get a new nanny.

So 5 I would expect if a nanny was working very long hours. Feeding a nanny is usual and expected.

3 and 4.
She doesn't sound like the sort of person you want as your Nanny.

I agree with bratsy if you are paying a good wage then none of this is acceptable unless agreed with you or discussed with you.

2 wouldnt bother me. Out of the rest 3 then 4 then all the rest about the same.

Either way they would be gone

She sounds really awful. I wouldn't want her to be responsible for my child.

3,4,6 are bad! 1,2 and 5 would be OK with me. I would fire her for 3 and 6 because most people would get the sack for that and children turning up for school late isn't acceptable

1 is ok as long as it's very brief - 10 min not 40 min. I'd expect her to arrive at work already showered and dressed though.

2 might be ok, depends on exact facts

3 not ok (unless you are expecting the impossible eg she is to arrive at 7.55 and get DC dressed and out the door by 8.05)

4 only ok if DC was ill or had a nightmare

5 not a biggie but I'd want her to at least ask me whether I preferred to cover

6 not ok

7 definitely not ok!

Agree that if you are paying under market rate you can't expect as much, how much are you paying and what hours do you require?

Apart from number 2, I would have major issues with all of them!

1,3,4,6 would do it for me!

Dont know what 2 means tbh. Is it snacks/meals during the course of her shift or is she actually stealing food to take home? I would be fine with feeding her during a shift, its perfectly reasonable.

But I do think you need a new nanny. She seems to be doing her own thing when it pleases her and 6 is really chancing her arm, why agree to babysit then call for you to come home early so she could go out?

I have taken minded kids to gp appointments, no point in putting parents out of a days childcare for a 10 minute appointment and its not always possible to get one after work.

6 3 and 4 in that order are unacceptable. Particularly 6 and 3 would be deal breakers if persistent.
1 and 5 are OK. Parents do that while they have children with them.
2 depends. Meals/snacks/ handwash etc during work hours, fine. Helping herself to packs of chicken breasts or unopened bottles of Molton Brown shampoo to take home, not good.