i.e. is this 'normal' and I've just grown up shielded from 'real life'?! (His opinion.)
He drinks, I don't. (Well, barely at all.) He goes out to the pub twice a week to see/drink with a mate. He probably has 4-6 pints a time, at a guess. (I can't get a real answer if ever I ask, because he always lies about it.) He doesn't usually get drunk, but on occasion comes home slurring his words and speaks differently which I despise, although try not to say anything. I used to comment - probably a LOT - when we were newly married and I was young, pregnant and irrationally terrified he'd come home drunk and beat me (he never has obvs!), and I probably contributed to a vicious circle for a year or so. Since then I try not to say anything but fail as much as I succeed. He lies and hides bottles sometimes and things like that, hence not being very good at holding my tongue, and yeah, vicious circle.
If he ever goes out with other friends he drinks more, on top of his usual weekly quota, and from Sept-Dec and March-July he attends a club thing twice a week, after which they all go to the pub. We see family most Sundays who provide wine and he will drink a whole bottle - seems like its as fast as he can, as though I'm going to notice and take it away.
Part of what really annoys me is money - or lack of. I work self-employed but don't have much coming in at the moment. I also have a chronic health condition that limits me to doing part time at the most.
He works 3 hours a week (yes, you read that right) and gets £50 for that, but otherwise nothing of note. Technically he's supposed to be in charged of housework/kids but in reality it's washing clothes, cooking and two thirds of the school runs, and not much else.
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itstimeforchange · 26/02/2017 23:11
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