I'm sure I am.
SIL is pregnant. I should be happy for her, excited to meet my future niece or nephew, and I think I am. But I'm finding it hard to cope with her near constant pregnancy updates and the articles she keeps sharing in our whatsapp group. I'm probably just being sensitive but its constant and hard to avoid, and making me feel judged. A few examples - she keeps talking about how she's exercising and keeping herslef healthy (I was on bed-rest for a lot of my pregnancy and having been quite fit before, became very deconditioned and very upset about it), how she can't bear putting on weight (I became so swollen with fluid quite early on), talking about what a lovely surprise it all is (I had a horrific time getting and staying pregnant) and the 'evidence' for a natural midwife led birth (I had no choice but a caesarean). She knows all these things, but I suppose is so wrapped up in it all that she's being insensitive. The latest one that hit a nerve was last night she was telling everyone (at PILs for dinner) how medical interventions in labour and city living are linked to asthma - knowing our latest issue with DS is that he's being investigated for asthma (we've already been told how our lifestyle has probably contributed to his allergies and eczema).
Reading that all back, I suppose none of those things on its own is any more than just chat. But it feels very insensitive and almost personal sometimes. Its making it hard to be around her, and hard to feel happy for her and her pregnancy - which makes me feel like a really crappy person. How do i get past this?
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iknowiam · 26/02/2017 22:34
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