OH and I have 1 DD who is 16 months. We both work full time and he often works at weekends.
Prior to having DD I had quite a high sex drive but this has understandably taken a nose dive after having DD. We probably have sex twice a week, which I don't think is too bad all things considered.
Problem is, his sex drive has now overtaken mine and the way he is approaching this is making me feel...uncomfortable?
Pretty much every evening when we get in bed he makes it clear he wants sex and tries to initiate it. If I am not in the mood I make it obvious. I don't out and out reject him but I will gently say no, I'm no feeling it.
A few nights ago he was clearly turned on and, after I had made it clear I wasn't up for it, he lay in bed and whispered into the darkness 'Tell me something dirty'. I very firmly turned around and said I wasn't in the mood, that I'd made that clear. He sorted himself out.
Then, last night he tried to initiate and I once again said no. I was exhausted, been used as a climbing frame all day by DD, etc. Feeling bad for letting him down again I asked if we could cuddle. I apologised for my lack of sex drive at the moment, reassured him I still wanted him but I found it difficult to get in the mood sometimes. He said this was fine. He said it only became an issue if I started getting grumpy with him for having a wank.
We continued to cuddle and it became quite obvious he was touching himself. He asked me if I'd prefer it, when he needed a release, if he did it in bed or went downstairs. I said either way it was a bit off. I don't mind him sorting himself out but if it's every night we don't have sex it gets a bit much.
He continued to do his thing. I was uncomfortable. I made to get up under the excuse that I thought I hadn't locked the front door. He said he had, held me close and continued.
I didn't know what to do.
I don't know what to do.
AIBU for feeling like this?
I understand he has sexual urges and have no issue with him addressing this. But the whole thing...it just felt so wrong.
I don't want to come across as a prude, that's the last thing I am. It was just all a bit weird.
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AIBU to think this is just too much?
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GerardNoWay · 26/02/2017 12:55
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