The whole thing is just so stupid.
I live abroad with my partner and two children (in the UK). My father, stepmother (SM), stepbrother and my sister with husband and my niece live in my home country. My mother lives in the USA.
My father and SM visited us for Christmas. I asked them if they could take few gifts for my sister's family and a dress for my mum. My mum was visiting my home country in January. It was all agreed and they took everything.
They returned home and visited my sister. They gave her all gifts apart from the dress claiming they forgot about it. I asked if they could do it before my mum comes to visit. I also asked my sister if she could pick it up when she gets a chance.
My dad and my sister live about 10minutes drive from each other (out of city but in the same area).
A week before my mum was coming to see my sister, I found out that the dress is still at my father's house. My father&SM were going away for a week exactly when my mom was visiting.
I asked them then if they could drop the dress of and they declined saying that my sister should pick it up. I rand my sister and asked her to get the dress before they go away and she said she would do it if she has time.
When my mum came from USA the dress was still at my father's house and they went away.
My mum was very upset and we had a few arguments about it but what could I possibly do about it?
Anyway, my father and SM returned and last week they went for my nieces birthday party at my sisters house. I asked them the night before if they could please please take that dress because my sister is a cow and she won't do it.
They laughed a bit about it and didn't say anything. They didn't take that dress and it's still at my father's house.
My mum went mental and even texted my dad about how mean he was. She is not talking to my sister either, because my sister refused to pick the dress up.
AIBU to feel betrayed my my father and SM? I have such a good relationship with them, we go on holidays together and we never had any problems like this before.
I'm not really close with my sister, I ring her once every two months and when it's someone's birthday. I know she can be a right bitch and very very selfish, so in general I don't ever ask her for anything. She never even invites me to her house when I visit my home country (that happens once or twice a year).
I think they are all so childish and I don't understand why it's such a big problem to get that damn dress to my sister's house.
My mum has given up on that dress and I'm just sad, because she really wanted it. It's a designer dress and I paid £50 for it (not a lot for some but quite expensive for me). I was afraid to post it to the USA, because I had items missing before.
Now I don't know what to say to my dad and SM. I'm so disappointed and sad and I don't want to see them really. I was supposed to book tickets for summer and Christmas to visit them but I just can't at the moment.
I'm thinking about staying home for Christmas, because vision of all family together (my mum would come too) is too terrifying. I was thinking of shortening summer visit from two and half week to one week only (or less).
What should I do? Should I wait and maybe I will feel different? What should I say to my dad and SM?
I'm sorry for a long post but I'm so unhappy inside.
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mummy1234321 · 25/02/2017 21:34
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