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AIBU?

Child hit my baby

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esmaesmomma · 25/02/2017 21:33

Today I visited a children's theme park with my friend, her 2 children (aged 3 & 9) and my DD aged 9 months.

The weather wasn't brilliant so we decided to take refuge in the "adventure zone" huge I side play area. My friends children ran off happily after having some lunch and my dd stated to get restless so I decided to take her over to the baby area which is for babies and toddlers under 5. I was sat with her in the ball pool and she was smiling and giggling and sat between my legs playing it was adorable she has a ball pool at home and she loves it.

There were a couple of other children in the area most were unsupervised but were all playing lovely together. 2 little girls came in when I say little this child was around 6 possibly 7 years old defiantly too old for that area not that it's some kind of law or anything. Anyway the older girl started messing around and bashed into my dd so I moved my daughter away and carried on playing the girl moved closer and started flicking the balls so they would hit my baby. I politely asked the little girl to stop and said there was plenty of room she needed sit so close to the baby she then looked me straight in the eye and reached out and hit my dd making her cry there was no warning she was going to do this. I was mortified I moved my daughter out of the ball pool and went back to the table where I spent the next 10 mins consoling her. I told my friend what happened then looked out for the little girl I finally managed to put the child to a parent so I went over to the mother and calmly explained what happened I had Dd in my arms the mother then said my daughter wouldn't of hit yours for no reason she must of done something to her first!

I'm not one of those "it's never my kids" kind of parent but my daughter is 9 months old and can't even crawl properly or talk she was just sat with me picking up the balls.

In the end the mother did say something to her daughter but it was pretty half assed like she was only mentioning it because she felt like she had to not because she thought what her daughter had done was wrong. AIBU to think this child should of known better and to feel deeply hurt by the whole thing its left me quite upset not nice to watch your child (esp a baby) being hit by another child. I'm kind of annoyed at the mother but it's not my place to say how she should parent her child.

Would anyone of done anything differently in terms of telling the child's mother/father?

Also the man the mother was with was very apologetic he was not the child's father.

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esmaesmomma · 25/02/2017 21:34

Thanks for letting me vent and get it out I felt like I needed to write it down to get it off my chest.

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MotherofA · 25/02/2017 21:37

Wow that's really disturbing that a little child would behave that way . Not sure what else you could do though . The mother is clearly in denial !

LucklessMonster · 25/02/2017 21:37

Would anyone of done anything differently in terms of telling the child's mother/father?

No. Some parents just don't care, and there's nothing you can do about that.

Try not to let it bother you too much, though. Your daughter won't remember, and it probably upset you a lot more than her!

esmaesmomma · 25/02/2017 21:39

It did upset me but I know this is something il witness a lot of kids are kids I totally get that just my dd is so defenceless. What upsets me the most is if this child came back 2 mins later and smiled at my LO my baby would of smiled her little head off at her.. their too trusting and it breaks my heart

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IamFriedSpam · 25/02/2017 21:42

Wow, usually I think these situations are six of one half a dozen of the other or just the result of the hell that is soft play but that one really takes the biscuit. I'd firstly be so apologetic if either of my DC had done that and secondly seriously concerned as to why at the age of 6/7 they would do such a thing. That mum sounds seriously awful (a little baby started it? WTF?).

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 25/02/2017 21:44

Good Lord. Fair enough kids are kids but a 6 year old attacking a 9 month old baby. That's beyond disturbing and certainly does not fit the description of normality or kids being kids. I'm actually wondering could she have a detachment disorder. What's she seeing at home.
Give your little one a massive (((((())))))))))) hug from me. The poor little lamb

EmeraldIsle86 · 25/02/2017 21:44

Nothing more to the mother or father but I would have been a lot more direct with the child tbh and told her to be careful when she first bumped her and then to stop throwing balls at the baby or I'd have to get someone to take her out [death stare]...I've never known a six year old not to crawl up their own arse at my death stare though.

esmaesmomma · 25/02/2017 21:45

I shouldn't judge too quickly that child could have a health condition I know it's not an excuse. It didn't seem that way she was interacting and playing with other kids well and she spoke well my friends 9 year old is autistic but she has never acted in this way she's very loving though

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glenthebattleostrich · 25/02/2017 21:47

I may be in the minority but it's things like this which make me tell other people's kids off at soft plays and parks. And parents get the arse because I do (never raising my voice, usually just a sharp 'no don't do that please') but if they bothered to parent I wouldn't need to.

esmaesmomma · 25/02/2017 21:47

Emerald! GrinI must remember the death stare

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esmaesmomma · 25/02/2017 21:49

Oh and just to let you all know I've hugged and kissed my baby all day since and when her daddy came home and I told him he had a 2 hour long cuddle with her while watching her fav tv show and playing with her little piano so she went to bed very happy

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BathshebaDarkstone · 25/02/2017 21:49

She was deliberately nasty and her mother allowed it. I don't think you could have done anything differently. Flowers and Wine

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 25/02/2017 21:50

Awwwwwww bless her.

EmeraldIsle86 · 25/02/2017 21:50

I agree glen...in short I speak to other people's kids the same way I speak to my own. If one of mine was being rough around little ones (which they are both old enough to know not to), I wouldn't ask them 'politely' to stop, they'd have a fairly sharp 'enough now, there are little ones here' type comment.

Sweets101 · 25/02/2017 21:51

I have to admit if a child looked me in the eye and hit my baby, i'd tell them off directly. I'd really struggle not to.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 25/02/2017 21:52

The mother actually said that your 9 month old baby started it.
Please tell me. I'm having a bloody nightmare.

Scrumptiousbears · 25/02/2017 21:53

No wonder the kid is like that if that how her mother behaves.

esmaesmomma · 25/02/2017 21:53

I've only been mummy for 9 months so I need to build some confidence when it comes to other people's children but I would fully expect an adult to be stern with my dd if she ever did anything like this

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mineofuselessinformation · 25/02/2017 21:55

Actually, I feel sorry for the child. She probably doesn't really know right from wrong - at that age, you need an adult to explain why some things are wrong.
Her mother's attitude tells you everything you need to know about why the dd did what she did.

mineofuselessinformation · 25/02/2017 21:55

Sorry, I should add - it can't have been nice to see your baby hurt. I'm glad she's ok.

DizzyFizzyLizzy · 25/02/2017 21:57

What a little shite.

Nope, not sorry. Some kids just do things out of badness and she sounds like one of them.

SarcasmMode · 25/02/2017 21:57

Well you know where she got her outlook from don't you?

The Apple didn't fall far, did it?

Your poor DD.

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esmaesmomma · 25/02/2017 21:58

The child defiantly knew she was in the wrong when she saw me talking to her mother she put her head down and wouldn't even look at me

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EineKleine · 25/02/2017 22:00

Yes I'd get Extremely Firm with the child before involving the parent. It works better and also sends a message to your own child (albeit yours is a bit young yet) that you don't tolerate that behaviour or them being hurt.

llangennith · 25/02/2017 22:01

You'll develop a death stare for obnoxious kids eventually. I find the death stare accompanied by "No! You will not do that" said in quiet but menacing tones is very effective😈

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