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To send a passive aggressive text?

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BrightonBelleCat Sat 25-Feb-17 19:08:35

My dp has had a shocking 2 weeks, issues at work, plus without being too revealing a nasty accident and has been feeling really down.

His best mate sent him a text earlier saying catch up later. Now it transpires his own db has arranged a night out with all their mates and not invited his own brother.

Dp is a bit miffed understandably. He could have really done with a night out. Obviously he is a grown man so can handle his own argument.

I'm so tempted to send a passive aggressive 'that's nice of you' type text. I am being completely unreasonable I know.

Rubyslippers7780 Sat 25-Feb-17 19:09:53

Stay out of it. Might be a simple error..not worth getting upset about.

Nicpem1982 Sat 25-Feb-17 19:10:12

Can you and dp go out instead

ragz134 Sat 25-Feb-17 19:10:38

Perhaps they are assuming he is too unwell to go out? Maybe he can call his brother and say he feels like getting out of the house.

SaltySalt Sat 25-Feb-17 19:10:44

If anyone should it's your dh

TestingTestingWonTooFree Sat 25-Feb-17 19:11:09

Keep out of it.

BrightonBelleCat Sat 25-Feb-17 19:11:12

Nope. It's tonight and we won't be able to get a babysitter at this short notice.

Wellitwouldbenice Sat 25-Feb-17 19:11:21

I think I would send a fairly straight forward texting saying that your DH was hurt not to be invited out, particularly as he has had s tough couple of weeks. I'd also ask if there was any particular reason he wasn't included in the arrangements.

VeryBitchyRestingFace Sat 25-Feb-17 19:11:47

If he had a nasty accident, is it possible his brother might think he's not up for a night on the town yet?

BrightonBelleCat Sat 25-Feb-17 19:12:22

Ooh turns out he has just sent him a 'thanks for inviting me text' himself. I will await the response.

BrightonBelleCat Sat 25-Feb-17 19:13:41

He is back on his feet now and to be honest could do with a drink and a night out to let his hair down a bit. Well as much as a 40 year old man can.

NoFuckingRoomOnMyBroom Sat 25-Feb-17 19:16:16

So tell him to go, if his best mate is there then there's no reason he can't invite himself is there? His mate clearly thought he was going anyway from the catch up later text.

HecateAntaia Sat 25-Feb-17 19:16:40

does he normally have a good relationship with his brother?
tbh it would have been better to invite himself than send a snippy text.
heard about the night out. just what i need! where are we meeting?

AQuietMind Sat 25-Feb-17 19:17:49

It sounds like his injury has been exaggerated for sympathy but backfired.

Keep out of it.

Birdsgottaf1y Sat 25-Feb-17 19:26:09

How did it 'transpire'? Usually when men catch up with each other, it's a informal 'invite', more of a "we'll be in such & such pub, at x o'clock"".

Either you DH was overlooked because they didn't think he was up to it, or they felt that he'd bring the night down.

Either way, keep out of it.

INeedNewShoes Sat 25-Feb-17 19:34:32

I don't think passive aggressive texts are ever a good idea.

I've thought about it a number of times but thankfully always stopped myself in time!

Bansteadmum Sat 25-Feb-17 19:38:51

Not a good idea to get involved, it's his issue with his relative, for him to manage.

SiL gets involved in BiL's issues like this, in a "BiL was hurt" passive/aggressive way: it annoys the whole family!

Desperina Sun 26-Feb-17 08:10:03

Oh dear no definitely stay well out of it.

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