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minor AIBU but it annoyed me

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dreamreckless Sat 25-Feb-17 13:38:14

We are on holiday at the moment, and our little girls' routine has obviously been all out of sync. On Thursday night DD2 didn't go to sleep until half nine, she then didn't sleep during the day as we were out and about doing things and we got them in at seven o clock. DD2 was just wailing in sheer exhaustion. I was just going to put her straight in her cot to sleep but DH was adamant she had to have a bath first!

WIBU to have said no, or was he? She was sticky and grubby but not filthy.

cariadlet Sat 25-Feb-17 14:12:06

Sleep in more important than bathtime. I would have given her hands and face a quick wash and then let her have a proper bath the following morning.

ragz134 Sat 25-Feb-17 14:13:52

I have only ever bathed my kids 1-2 times a week. They don't get that dirty...

ragz134 Sat 25-Feb-17 14:14:30

If we are home late on bath night it happens the next day. Sleep comes first.

ShowMePotatoSalad Sat 25-Feb-17 14:16:52

If she was sticky/grubby I would have bathed her. A few more minutes having a quick bath isn't going to be disruptive, and it might have helped her sleep better.

I think YABU to say no outright- he's her parent too so you don't get to automatically override his opinions on things. If he felt she would have slept better having a bath, could you have seen his point of view on it? And compromised with a quick wash.

EatTheChocolateTeapot Sat 25-Feb-17 14:29:20

No, poor love, she was wailing, why would you faff with a bath?
Did she fall asleep straight away?

PuppyMonkey Sat 25-Feb-17 14:31:38

Never have understood the obsession some people have about having to bathe children before bedtime. confused

seagazer Sat 25-Feb-17 14:35:01

Definitely bed straight away, a little dirt wouldn't have harmed her. Bath in the morning.

mistermagpie Sat 25-Feb-17 14:47:39

People are obsessed with bathing young children before bed. Loads of my friends are really really strict about doing it every day, even in scenarios like you describe.

My DS gets a proper bath/shower every 2-3 days. Obviously top and tail daily and will give him a proper wash if he's actually dirty from playing outside or painting or whatever. Beyond that, it's not really necessary in my opinion. Mind you, DS hates the bath so it's certainly not a relaxing element of his bedtime 'routine' when he does have one!

teraculum29 Sat 25-Feb-17 14:55:47

I would bath my DD in those circumstances, as that will help her sleep better and also bath is a part of our sleep routine.

OliviaStabler Sat 25-Feb-17 15:08:10

I would have bathed her. Don't like anyone going to bed grubby.

melj1213 Sat 25-Feb-17 15:28:02

If my DD was at the point of wailing with exhaustion by the time we got back when she was already all out of sync due to holiday schedule then I'd get her out of her clothes, a quick face/hand wash then into PJs and bed, because they need their sleep more than they need a bath when they're at that pooint!

It's not just an extra couple of minutes for them to have a bath, it's the few minutes to get in, get the bath run, get them out of their clothes, in the water, washed, out, dried, dressed in PJs and then settled into bed ... all while they're already exhausted and upset. Whereas if you stick them straight in bed, if they really need it you can do the bath the following morning when they're less tired, fractious and you will all be rested (and presumably can take your time as you're on holiday, whereas at night you're just trying to get it over with so they can sleep)

If I'm work out after a particularly long or exhausting day at work, I have been known to forgo my usual evening shower and just have a wash/teeth brushed and then shower in the morning, and it's never done me any harm!

harderandharder2breathe Sat 25-Feb-17 15:32:52

Bed is more important than a bath.

Quick wipe of face and hands, pjs on and straight to bed

Unless she was worked up and would have been soothed by the bath so was calmer to sleep?

Whathaveilost Sat 25-Feb-17 15:33:18

I probably would have bathed her if she was sticky and grubby.

I know pe5here are saying they cant understand the evening bath session but it was part of our ritual. Supper, bath,bed/story kiss goodnight/ lights out/ settledown.
Worked for us.

WinnieTheW0rm Sat 25-Feb-17 15:34:26

How old is your DD2? And does she usually share bedtime routines with DD1?

Because doing things as close to normal might help her settle, especially if her older sibling is behaving ordinarily and they can do it together.

It's not so much dirt, as encouraging sleep. An overtired child can be quite difficult to settle. (I'm tending to assume DD1 is a good sleeper, as you haven't encountered this before)

Soubriquet Sat 25-Feb-17 16:24:31

I can see why he wanted to bath her if she was all sticky and grubby but I would have given her a once over with a baby wipe and bathed in the morning

Let her sleep

dreamreckless Sat 25-Feb-17 16:41:20

I did wash her hands and face but she was just so tired that waiting for the bath to fill and then DD1 getting all excited and getting them out anddry and into pyjamas would have taken at least half an hour and she was shattered. dd2 is 18 months

IamFriedSpam Sat 25-Feb-17 17:04:33

YANBU. I would wipe her face and hands and just give her a bath in the morning if she was really that dirty. Kids don't sweat much so really don't need a bath every day.

Ewock Sat 25-Feb-17 17:52:17

Yanbu quick wash of hands and face and then put into bed. When they are that tired a bath would make mine over tired which would lead to a meltdown.

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