I am very much pro-choice when it comes to abortion. Particularly at the early stages anyway.
When I was a teenager I was a complete mess. Utterly miserable, depressed, dabbled in drugs, slept around, self harmed, and generally tried to self destruct. I ended up with an accidental pregnancy, although I hadn't been careful so it served me right. As soon as I found out I knew how desperately the baby was wanted and the baby's dad (I got lucky that he was a decent guy) agreed with me. I was a student and knew I would need benefits until I had graduated (housing benefit and CTC to top up student loan, no JSA/IS). Partner was in the same position. Family weren't supportive but we kept the baby.
Baby is now 6. I got my act together immediately and didn't so much as smoke one cigarette during pregnancy. Sorted out a place to live and everything we needed, read up about everything, went to classes etc. etc. Married baby's dad (we are very happy- I got very lucky), we both have good careers now, baby is incredibly loved and is happy and thriving. Baby completely saved my life.
But I can't get rid of the guilt. The fact that because I wasn't financially stable at first I shouldn't have had the baby. I KNOW I was BU to not be more careful, but once PG WIBU to keep baby?
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Was I being unreasonable? This has been bothering me for years
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morehamthancoke · 24/02/2017 20:54
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