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Not to tell DH how to cook the gyoza?

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KellyBoo800 Fri 24-Feb-17 20:30:39

DH is cooking dinner (I cook most nights, chores are evenly split so it's not about pulling his weight or anything). We had some frozen gyoza in the freezer that he fancied.

He's just called me into the kitchen to ask me how to cook them. I told him to read the instructions on the packet, but he said they don't make sense. I have cooked them once before, a few weeks ago, and just followed the instructions. Apparently that means that I should know how to cook them now and tell him so he doesn't have to try to understand the instructions.

Problem is I don't remember exactly how to do them with the timings so he is literally expecting me to stand next to him and read him the instructions and tell him exactly what to do. Apparently I'm being difficult because I told him to figure it out.

I know it sounds petty but I just hate the expectation that even on my night off from cooking I need to stand there and help him do it. He is more than capable of following a set of instructions himself. For what it's worth they are as simple as "fry in a little bit of oil for this amount of time, then add whatever amount of water the instructions say, and then add a lid and let them steam for another period of time". I have been looking after my DSD since 3pm and my 10 month old niece all day, I just want to sit down with a glass of wine ffs!!

PS I realise this is a small problem and hasn't triggered an actual argument. It just bothered me because no one stands there and reads the instructions for me when I cook something new!

KellyBoo800 Fri 24-Feb-17 20:31:24

blush I hadn't realised I could write quite so much about bloody gyoza wink

Happyandhungry Fri 24-Feb-17 20:32:03

What the frick is gyoza?!

CwtchMeQuick Fri 24-Feb-17 20:32:47

What is gyoza?

Anyway YANBU presumably he is a grown man and capable of reading a packet.

OuchBollocks Fri 24-Feb-17 20:33:24

Mmmmm gyoza. Where did you get them? What are they filled with? Oh and YANBU but is there a chance he'll do a shit job now and mess up your dinner?

NewPuppyMum Fri 24-Feb-17 20:33:41

YANBU and he is being pathetic.

KellyBoo800 Fri 24-Feb-17 20:34:01

Gyoza is heaven in a tiny little Japanese pastry parcel. Which we only know about because of wagamamas. I highly recommend, they are relatively easy to cook...wink

Notanotherpawpatrol Fri 24-Feb-17 20:34:47

Yanbu, but what is gyoza?

Notanotherpawpatrol Fri 24-Feb-17 20:35:04


Sugarlightly Fri 24-Feb-17 20:35:19

Can people not just look up gyoza???

tissuesosoft Fri 24-Feb-17 20:35:47

Yum! I think I need to visit my local Chinese supermarket. Great dinner.

YANBU, he should be able to read instructions without supervisor. I feel your pain- DP asked me if the bread was toasted enough for DD the other day...

MetalMidget Fri 24-Feb-17 20:35:54

Gyoza are delicious, where did you get them from? How do they compare to restaurant ones?

Notanotherpawpatrol Fri 24-Feb-17 20:36:03

Nope. Much like op's dh, I'm too lazy! grin

Laquila Fri 24-Feb-17 20:36:06

Ooh where can you buy good frozen gypza??

Laquila Fri 24-Feb-17 20:36:25

*gyoza, obvs

KellyBoo800 Fri 24-Feb-17 20:37:30

To be honest I do think he struggles with multi-tasking when he cooks, it's a recurring issue and one of the reasons I cook most the time because it causes him a lot of stress. He does a lot around the house (more than I do) so it doesn't bother me.

He won't mess it up on purpose, he's not that kinda guy.

Ocado sell big packs of 30, they are delish, and have just been served up to me looking rather lovely....

SandyDenny Fri 24-Feb-17 20:37:41

It doesn't really matter what it is an adult should be able to read and follow the instructions


HoneyDragon Fri 24-Feb-17 20:38:15

Can people not just look up gyoza???


Fruitcocktail6 Fri 24-Feb-17 20:39:16

Gyoza are my favourite!

I think YABU by the way, just help him. These are the little things that pick away at relationships, and he fucks it up you won't have delicious gyoza

QuimReaper Fri 24-Feb-17 20:39:47

I am eating gyoza right now grin

YANBU OP. I fucking hate that. What does he think I do when the instructions aren't crystal clear? Whom does he think I ask?

But OTOH he's within his rights to ask you for clarification if you've already done said legwork. I'd do the same, and be a bit annoyed with a "can't remember" <slouch off>

So in summary...


AYankinSpanx Fri 24-Feb-17 20:40:21

Little Japanese dumpling-y things. They're bloody lovely.

KellyBoo800 Fri 24-Feb-17 20:41:18

Perhaps we went through this emotional encounter so that I could enlighten some MN users as to how amazing they are. And of course they can't compete with proper restaurant ones but they are still really good!

AYankinSpanx Fri 24-Feb-17 20:42:05

Yep. Your work here is done OP.

KellyBoo800 Fri 24-Feb-17 20:44:03

takes a bow, exits stage left

ExitStage Fri 24-Feb-17 20:44:25

Wow. How petty.

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