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I had an abortion about 12 years ago. I don't want to give too many details surrounding the pregnancy but the baby was wanted and then I got shoe horned in to having an abortion. Which I've always regretted.
I've always felt uncomfortable about what happened and reading more on mumsnet the last few years about other's experiences I've started to think my experience wasn't quite right.
I booked in to a central London Marie Stopes and back then the only option was a surgical procedure. I was assured I would be given medication so that I wouldn't feel a thing and would be pretty out of it so not be as 'present'. I think they gave me a Valium beforehand and an injection of something. To be honest I was in a bit of a state so can't remember so well.
What I do remember was feeling very clear headed and also feeling everything they were doing. Not huge amounts of pain but a fair amount. I remember sobbing and asking them to stop. Obviously the procedure was underway so that wasn't an option but I didn't receive one kind word, in fact, they were talking about what they were going to do after work.
When I came out and went in the recovery room there were maybe 5 or 6 of us lying on loungers. I was pretty upset and remember asking a nurse if I could talk to someone and she said 'no, you've already had the counselling session included in the price, did you really expect to feel happy right now? All of these girls are in the same situation as you now.' That was it.
After this I had a pretty rough few months. I went completely off the rails and ended up under the home care team after a suicide attempt. My doctor (who was absolutely lovely) was horrified I didn't go to her and said that it would have been much better to have had it done on the NHS as they give a general, she thought that mild sedation was barbaric and that she'd heard other complaints about private clinics.
Part of me is wondering if I'm making too much of this as it wasn't really something I wanted to do. But it was incredibly traumatic. It's not something I'll ever get over and I do think that it didn't go as they're meant to. Or is this just how they were done back then? It was a Marie Stopes not a shoddy backstreet place which is why I'm unsure.
It's not really the kind of thing I want to talk about irl with anyone. I've told a couple of people about the abortion but their responses have made me so ashamed I've not felt like telling anyone else let alone the details.
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I'm thinking this abortion experience wasn't quite right?
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mrsmummum · 24/02/2017 19:11
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