To be a little bit upset?

[thunderbuddy]

A few weeks ago I had tests for something else and something dodgy showed up in another area which resulted in emergency appointments and scans/tests.

I have spent two weeks terrified I may have cancer if I'm honest due to what was said and other health issues.

A family member said she wanted to come to the scans with me, that they didn't want me to go alone. I wasn't really bothered about going alone but they insisted they came.

For the last two weeks they insisted they were coming even saying they were coming for me they had decided (they have a car and I don't)

Cue yesterday morning, awful weather, I rang in regards to a different matter and mentioned the hospital and got 'oh you have bus fare don't you'. I actually didn't as they insisted they were coming for me so took some money out of the food money for the cheaper bus which involved a forty minute walk in storms to the bus depot then a twenty minute walk at the other end of the bus to the hospital.

As I said I would have done that anyway and didn't mind going alone but I just feel a bit sad about it. They didn't even bother to tell me they weren't coming!

For the record I spoke to them later and they had been shopping in the morning and at home in the afternoon so not out.

[PamplemousseRouge]

You're definitely not being unreasonable OP I'm so sorry that you had to make the journey to the hospital on your own, especially after your relative had promised to go with you. How are you feeling today? Can I ask how the scans went?

[thunderbuddy]

I have an appointment early next week to discuss the results.

[thunderbuddy]

Sorry forget to add thank you. I'm seeing the person today and a bit at a loss.

[ImperialBlether]

Basically they made it all about them, then couldn't be bothered making the trek at the end.

I wouldn't tell them anything about the appointment and I wouldn't rely on them for anything in the future.

I hope all goes well with your results.

[Chloe84]

That's awful. Please do tell them when you see them. No need to fall out, but you should tell them it upset you.

I wouldn't be doing this person favours any time soon.

[WhatWouldLeslieKnopeDo]

Ugh what a nasty person! Some people love to be seen to be "helping", but don't want to help. They shouldn't have pushed to begin with when you had said you were happy to go alone. They don't seem to have any consideration for your feelings.

Unfortunately medical situations, especially anything cancer-related, seem to bring out this sort of behaviour in some people. I hope that your results are good

[WhatWouldLeslieKnopeDo]

PS you're welcome to join us over on the cancer support thread (in General Health) if you'd like. Often people join us while waiting for results as we understand how awful the waiting is :)

[PamplemousseRouge]

How are you feeling OP?

[IamFriedSpam]

YANBU, sounds like a real fair weather friend. The kind of person who likes to feel they're "always there" for their friends but can't really be bothered when push comes to shove. If you offer you should do it unless something comes up to genuinely stop you.

[IamFriedSpam]

P.S. hope appointment went well.