Backstory : I was with a guy for 3 years. However in the last year he became obsessed with his religion and wouldn't so much as hold my hand in private as it was 'setting a bad example to the world'. Anyway we grew apart and broke up. He said being in a relationship wasn't appropriate but he may decide propose in a few years anyway so I shouldn't date anyone else in the meantime . I don't need that s**t in my life so knew I had to move on. Initially devestated to have lost my best friend but I am now in a very happy and loving relationship with 'the one', I am 500% convinced it was the right thing.
Ex and I used to be members of the same friendship group from the church ( I went along because I knew it meant a lot to him and wanted to support him) I asked to meet one of the girls for a drink tomorrow evening, she said 'that sounds good, I'll invite some others shall I? We're all at church beforehand so we can come after.' She then asked if there was anyone I didn't want her to invite (knowing ex and I aren't exactly friends). She hasn't invited ex because she knows I would feel weird about it. However the problem is, since losing me, ex-bf has realised that I'm not planning on coming back, and doesn't truly believe I'm happy without him. I've seen him once properly since we broke up, upon asking how I am, I said 'really good thanks!' His response? 'I don't believe you, I know you're good at hiding things'. Although I am genuinely thrilled with my life without him. Our friendship group keeps telling me how much he cares about me and misses me. Although he hasn't been invited tomorrow, I know he'll end up tagging along (under the suggestion of my friends) in the hope I'll see sense and run back to him. They're basically just concerned that I have decided Christianity isn't for me, so how can I possibly be happy with my new boyfriend? I'm worried if I don't want to see him, they'll assume I'm not over him. But at the same time, I'm moving on with my life, and don't want to have to sit around a table with the guy who destroyed my confidence because he wouldn't even touch me for the last year of our relationship. Wwyd? Sorry for the long post!!!
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Babybubblescomingsoon · 22/02/2017 15:00
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