I am a parent to two teenagers and a stepparent to dss aged 16.
He is really hard work, I mean really hard. He can be really rude and nasty and be lovely the next minute. He will pull tantrums if me and dh or me and my dc and dh do anything he doesn't agree or want to do. For example on a cinema trip if we all want to see one movie and he wants to see another he will act up and try and bully his way into controlling anything. If we go against his wishes on things like family outings (we don't give in because you don't do that with tantrums since it tends to make them happen more) he will try and guilt dh or us into giving him his way. He is very inconsiderate like that.
I partly think that is a result of him being spoilt by his Mum but I don't know and it doesn't matter how it started it needs to be tackled now.
He had an argument with my dd's boyfriend (who are same age dd and ds are twins aged 17 same school year). This was over dd's boyfriend taking one of dss's granola bars (i know stupid). I said to dss I would get some more when I go shopping. He went really mad at dd's boyfriend and made my dd cry who offered him the bar. Dd's boyfriend is now too scared to come round when dss is here.
There is also strange behaviour going on when it comes to me. He refused to get a lift to school from me when the buses were not running as was late instead. My mother died a month ago and he didn't show any sort of empathy to me or my dc and didn't come to the funeral which really annoyed me and my family and my mum always welcomed him. He did turn up to the hotel the reception was being held at only after dh had to basically force him to. He sat in the corner with an awful grumpy face cause he wanted to go to the gym. This caused animosity with my family who tried to make an effort talking to him despite the disrespect. He only gave one word answers and was on his phone the whole time. I couldn't care because it was about my mum that day but dh was mortified at the behaviour.
He was diagnosed with depression a year ago and has received therapy for that and he can easily slip into a depression but he is a lot better. I don't want to appear that I'm having a go at the boy but it needs to stop. I would like to say that at times he can be wonderful though.
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