AIBU to expect a thank you?

[RebelRogue]

I have a good friend. We have been friends for nearly 4 years now,but lately due to jobs,kids etc we barely see each other or keep in touch. I was hoping we'd be able to get together at some point during half term and i told her that. Only communication i had from her this half term was to ask me to look after her child next week. I said yes and to just remind me as i might forget and no other replies,not even a thank you. In her defence she does have a very busy life,but dunno?

[BrownEyedLady]

Probably just very busy - I'm crap at remembering to text back. Why don't you give her a call?

[RebelRogue]

So you'd ask for a favour,see the reply and then just forget about it? Fair enough.
We don't really do phone calls unless urgent.

[BaconMaker]

I always give the benefit of the doubt as I'm terrible at texting back (then waste loads of time worrying about whether it's now too late to text back, what will I say to justify the delay etc etc.) but yes it is a bit rude. I would hope though that if/when you do look after her child you'll get a genuine thank you.

[MakeItRain]

Yes I would expect a thank you for that. What will you do now? I'd be tempted to text back "hi, I don't think you got my reply. Yes I can look after your dc next week" and see what she says. If she doesn't reply I wouldn't do it, just say you assumed she didn't need you as you never heard back.

[fuzzywuzzy]

If I'd asked for a favour I'd definitely respond with a thank you.

It is rude.

Text her back ask her if she doesn't need babysitting anymore as she's not acknowledged your response to her request

[RebelRogue]

Followed your advice and texted to confirm if she still needs me so I'll wait for a reply. I'll have the child anyways as DD is really excited about it and it's on a day where I don't have as much to do .

[SparkleTwinkleGoldGlitter]

Your doing this for free?

I think to ask someone you've barely seen or keep in touch with lately to take care of your child for free is a bit cheeky anyway tbh but not to bother with even a thanks ( for the free childcare) is rude!

Yes she may be busy but your giving up your time to care for her child as a favour

[RebelRogue]

Reply "yes pls"

[Rugbyplayersarehot]

Have her child as it suits you and your dd.

See how she is going forward. She should buy you a little thankyou gift or be really grateful for the child care and if she's not then I think your friendship is cooling off.

[MadMags]

I'd write back "you're welcome".

[RebelRogue]

I don't expect gifts or money or whatever. I was just expecting a thank you and maybe a how are you/proposal to meet up. That would've been nice.

[BrownEyedLady]

Yes it is rude and the lack if thank you from the latest text is also rude. See how she is when she drops the DC off - she just might have an abrupt text manner. I tend to give people a lot of rope so apologies if this is a bit annoying!

[RebelRogue]

Not annoying at all,i did ask for opinions. I guess I'll just see how she is tomorrow when she comes to pick up her DC from my house(I'm picking my kid and hers from school).

[MakeItRain]

Yes, still quite rude and taking you for granted. Do you often look after her child? See how she is tomorrow, but be "busy" in future if still no thank you.

[Trollspoopglitter]

I'd text back saying "i guess you're waiting thank me for the favour with a bottle of red at end of tomorrow. Merlot goes down well in this house, ta."

Who is too busy to text "thanks" to free childcare?!

[alreadytaken]

unless they are sometimes taking your child home after school/ looking after them this sounds more like a leech than a good friend. Unless you get a lot of thanks in person I'd be too busy the next time they ask.

[coffeetasteslikeshit]

If it suits you and makes your DD happy to have a friend over I would not say anything to her, as you will be cutting off your nose to spite your face. It's rude yes, but not the end of the world.