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To feel that there is so many fake people in my life?

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Mazmamm Sat 18-Feb-17 23:16:48

That's it basically. I feel like it's hard to find genuine people. And when I say that, it sounds so pessimistic. If you knew me, you would know I'm the very optimistic. However, although I have some good friends, through experience I have found that people break trust and promises very easily ("Don't say anything but such and such has this massive thing happening in her life"- said by her best friend). People also say one thing but then do another ("i can't stand such and such, flick to FB and there they are "ah Hun, love you, so beautiful"). People can't just tell the truth (come round to mine for wine, but don't tell such and such as I've told her I'm ill- I'm put in an awkward position there).
I understand that we are all different, that we all cope with social niceties in different ways, I think I'm just becoming jaded.
Speaking to DH tonight and I could name 2 people who I genuinely trust. The FB thing is really starting to do my head in (I know, come off it blah blah - I'm far to nosey for that). All the selfie stuff "gorgeous Hun", "beauty" etc. I'm all for woman loving one another, but sometimes it's said just 'because'.
Call me a miserable awld hag, but does anyone else see through all of this?

Mazmamm Sat 18-Feb-17 23:21:04

There are so many. Ffs. Flaming before I've even started there.

WhyHasAllTheRumGone Sat 18-Feb-17 23:22:22

YANBU. A friend, an actual real friend once told me "there'i'm only about 6 people in the world actually worth bothering with". At the time I laughed and called her a miserable cow but the older I get, the more I agree.

WhyHasAllTheRumGone Sat 18-Feb-17 23:23:11

There's only about . . . .

Mazmamm Sat 18-Feb-17 23:26:56

I still 'like' the people that I'm in about, I'm still friendly with them, but i feel I've got to keep my guard up, people give away information too freely and praise people far too easily and disingenuously.

Derlei Sat 18-Feb-17 23:29:40

I seriously judge people who tell me that they don't particularly like someone but then on social media are completely up their backside. Just people pleasers.

I don't tell anyone any secrets about me; I have been the recipient of too many "don't say anything as she told me to keep it quiet, but so and so said ..." conversations

Mazmamm Sat 18-Feb-17 23:36:17

It creeps me out as soon as someone says it. I've been in the middle of a huge thing. I was told someone's heart-breaking secret. A few days later another friend comes up and says "have you heard about friend 1's heart-breaking secret? Her best friend in the world told me as she was so traumatised upon hearing it".
Queue a few weeks later friend with the heart-breaking secret says "I'm sure friend 1 knows my secret, just the way she's talking to me and empathising with me".
I had to just be nonchalant about it. I couldn't break up her friendship with her bestie because the bestie has loose lips. Although, I did think to myself 'does she thing I've told friend 1?' Even still, I didn't want to rock her solid friendships in such a traumatic time.
People just suck with secrets sometimes.

Mazmamm Sat 18-Feb-17 23:55:58

Sorry predictive isn't my pal today and my grammar went awol after a few glasses.

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