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startwig1982 Sat 18-Feb-17 16:45:34

I saw my line manager today who is currently on adoption leave. She's adopted two children, roughly 4 and 2. It's the first time I've seen her since she adopted them.

Anyway, I went over to say hello and to see how she was and commented on how lovely the little girl is(the other child was with her DH elsewhere). She said "yes: this is child 2, child 1 is over there."
Now, is it just me, or would you normally say thanks, this is Sophie/Hannah or whatever the child's name is?

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface Sat 18-Feb-17 16:47:05

Child 1 and Child 2 aren't the worse names I've heard...

startwig1982 Sat 18-Feb-17 16:47:39

Well that's true!

NotInMyBackYard1 Sat 18-Feb-17 16:48:44

She actually referred to them as Child 1 & Child 2? shock they do not have names?

mailfuckoff Sat 18-Feb-17 16:49:51

Adopted parents dont day their children's names in public, especially if they are located close by to birth family. My two have nicknames that I use in public unless I really do need to get their attention. I never call out both names together as it's identifying

startwig1982 Sat 18-Feb-17 16:49:59

She actually called her child 2 and her ds child 1!!

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface Sat 18-Feb-17 16:51:12

Maybe she hates their names?

Slightlyperturbedowlagain Sat 18-Feb-17 16:51:46

Bit surprising I guess but maybe her brain is just overwhelmed- it must be lots to deal with all at once. As prospective adoptive parents they will have been thoroughly checked out so should not be a concern?

startwig1982 Sat 18-Feb-17 16:52:24

Not at all concerned about her suitability, I was just taken aback.

Slightlyperturbedowlagain Sat 18-Feb-17 16:52:36

Interesting mail - never considered that.

picklemepopcorn Sat 18-Feb-17 16:55:19

They may have had the photos and info but not the names, and got into the habit of 'child 1 child 2' during all the adoption malarkey!
I would be careful what you say, there may be major confidentiality issues they are negotiating.

OurBlanche Sat 18-Feb-17 16:55:34

I came on to say what Mail said. Sounds daft until you think about what might have been their history!

startwig1982 Sat 18-Feb-17 16:57:10

Have to say I'd not given their history that much thought. I guess when you think of it like that it's less surprising.

Birdsgottaf1y Sat 18-Feb-17 17:17:29

Were you invited?

I'd say it was to protect their privacy. You're told to keep things low key, especially with people outside of close family.

NancyDonahue Sat 18-Feb-17 17:17:56

A bit different but..

A friend of mine has two adopted children. Both adopted at around a year old. She never refers to their names on Facebook or posts photos of them as obviously there is a back story with them and they could be identified. I guess your manager is sort of doing the same thing.

It's also why some parents of adopted children don't want names or photos of them on school website etc

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