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Not to want to buy my mum cigarettes?

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Hollycar · 18/02/2017 09:26

My mother's been ill on and off for months now. She has a constant hacking cough and this week it's got worse again and she's refusing to leave the house. I've popped over a couple of times with groceries (she claims she can't work online shopping - despite the fact she can do everything else online she wants to, and despite the fact it takes me two hours to get there and back) and I actually think she now has a nasty chest infection but she won't see the GP. And she now wants me to take her over some cigarettes this morning - WIBU to say no? She has other groceries but she's down to 1 packet apparently which won't last long - she usually smokes about 60 a day.

She says I'm being selfish and self-righteous saying I don't want to get them for her. FWIW I'm happy to go over and see her (though not for long as DH is working so I'll have to take DS and I'd rather he didn't catch what she's got/ sit for too long in her smokey living room while she won't open windows while she's ill) but I feel really uncomfortable taking her cigarettes.

I do feel like I'm being a massive twat but I'm sure her smoking is part of the reason she isn't getting better. And if she's that bloody desperate she can either get herself round the corner to Tesco or get an ooh GP appointment to try to feel better. I keep thinking if she was an alcoholic I wouldn't buy her alcohol. But then I think she's an adult and it's her decision to smoke. Blargh.

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GloGirl · 18/02/2017 09:28

YANBU, she's got a pack left so she can limit herself. Tell her to set up a shop for tomorrow with fags in - I bet that will force her to get over making an online supermarket shop.

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Hollycar · 18/02/2017 09:33

Can you get them in online shops?! I will tell her this! Suspect you're right and that will mysteriously solve her issue with working the Tesco delivery website...

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Akire · 18/02/2017 09:37

Yes you can buy them at Tesco asda on line etc you could always do a grocery shop for her (with or without the cigarettes!) just get it delivered to her address then no 2hour journey for you

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MrsJayy · 18/02/2017 09:38

I dont think you can buy them online. Say to her you will happily drop her to the shop if she likes. I probably would buy them for her though.

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MrsJayy · 18/02/2017 09:40

Can you buy them online didn't know that. Yes do her online shop and get her shopping delivered

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Akire · 18/02/2017 09:41

Asda site makes sense for them
Sell as coat blimey loads! life long non smoker here

Not to want to buy my mum cigarettes?
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Hollycar · 18/02/2017 09:55

Well this discussion has just been rendered moot as apparently DS has d&v. So I'm not going anywhere today! I will tell her about the online deliveries though!

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MaisyPops · 18/02/2017 09:56

My dad asked me years back to pick up a packet for hik from the shop. I said no. If he wants to di something that is awful for him then thats his choice but I'm not facilitating that.

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