Ok so as not to drip feed and to give you the full picture DH and myself lost a baby to a missed miscarriage ending in horribly traumatic circumstances. It then took over 3 years of trying before I fell pregnant again by which time we'd gone from thinking and talking about in the future "when we have a baby" to "if we ever have a baby" he's here now and 8 months old and is just my whole world. Which brings me to my problem...is it normal to feel genuinely terrified that he's going to stop breathing in the night? He still sleeps attached to my side of the bed in a Chicco Side sleeper but if I'm honest with myself I know he's outgrown it as he's really tall for his age (over 95th centile for height) he's more comfortable in his proper cot (he has his naps in there to get him used to it) I wake up every time he sighs loudly or makes any noise or rolls over plus multiple times he doesn't as he hasn't for a while! and my heart stops until I've rolled over and checked he's still breathing. I can't fall asleep at night until I can hear him breathing beside me,he's totally healthy and happy so I have no medical reason to worry. I feel that because we wanted him so much for so long he's too good to be true and might be taken away from us (as in he might pass away in his sleep) the thought of him sleeping in his own room (next to ours for context he'd be around 8 feet away but with a wall between us) makes me feel panicky and anxious. My question I suppose is are these feelings normal? Is it worth speaking to my health visitor about this? My friend thinks I should but my husband thinks that I'm fine. Another question is realistically how likely is he to be fine? This is what I want the health visitor to talk to me about really,how likely are babies to just pass away at this age?
Writing that down has made me look a bit nuts I think and thanks for reading those that do,it's just a stream of consciousness really I apologise for the lack of punctuation I daren't go back and proof read as i will chicken out of posting!
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MuncheysMummy · 17/02/2017 20:34
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