Back story: BIL is getting married abroad at the end of August. We don't have passports etc as a family so in order to attend we were looking at upwards of £1500 expenditure without including spending anything while there, this is simply beyond what we can afford. After much deliberation we decided to decline invitation, at which point PIL have very kindly offered to pay for our flights and upgrade their accommodation to include us as MIL really wants us all to be there in particular. We are very grateful for this of course.
However...
Have spoken to MIL today. She has booked flights to return late night at the end of the first week in September. It occurred to us both during the conversation that this might coincide with the start of the new school year which has thus far never been an issue but DS is due to start school this September. Places have not been allocated yet and there are no term dates available for next school year, so this is all hypothetical and therefore I'm probably being totally PFB and worrying over something that may not even be an issue BUT I have told MIL that I am concerned that DS could potentially miss his first ever day of school.
I tried to put it across as diplomatically as possible - i.e. We are extremely grateful that you have paid our way, however if there is a clash I will have to attempt to rebook tickets for an earlier date and failing that might have to bow out altogether. (She hasn't insured tickets so it will be difficult to change dates. I don't expect her to foot the bill, I would be happy to save between now and then to cover the cost and have told her this)...
She thinks I'm being unreasonable and that it's fine for him to miss a couple of days. But these aren't a standard couple of school days. I'm also doubly confused at how blasé she's being since when her other grandchild started school last year she took a day off work and drove for an hour to greet them out of school and take photos.
I know at age 4 they're going to be doing a bit of colouring in and changing best friend every five minutes for the first week of school but I do think it's a vital settling in period that I don't want him to bypass. He struggled with starting nursery and is naturally very highly strung (to put it kindly). She also thinks it would be fine for him to arrive at the airport at 10 at night then travel 4 hours home to start school the next day...
So, AIBU and too precious or should I stick to my guns? (I do realise I'm probably overreacting anyway since the whole situation is hypothetical until April )
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Somelikeithotter · 16/02/2017 17:34
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