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To say DH is a twat and has ruined my birthday.

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furrypets · 15/02/2017 18:43

It was my birthday yesterday. The intention was we were going in town and i was going to choose something for him to get me. Before town we drove to a local beauty spot so we could walk the dog first.

i don't normally like my photo took but i thought with it being my birthday i'll give him my phone and ask him to take my picture. Just a normal everyday thing that people do right? No, he had a huge moan because he had the dog on a lead in one hand and in the other a filled dog poo bag.Wouldnt a normal person just put down the poo bag and take the picture? No not him, he made a big show of not managing to take the pic, blaming it on the "stupid phone".

I told him it's the easiest phone in the world, just press the big circle at the bottom. Nope, couldn't do it, threw my phone down in the wet grass and stormed off like a big spoiled kid.

So that was my birthday, no present (not bothered) but we're still not speaking, apart from him telling me it's my fault for asking him to take my picture.

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SealSong · 15/02/2017 18:44

He sounds like a total arse.

Sorry you had a crap birthday Flowers

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AnyFucker · 15/02/2017 18:46

I concur

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mintthins · 15/02/2017 18:46

Have some Flowers and Gin and Wine from me. Happy birthday. He is being a prat.

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Topseyt · 15/02/2017 18:47

He sounds about four years old.

He is a twat.

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MadHattersWineParty · 15/02/2017 18:47

He shouldn't have thrown your phone down.

I probably would have waited until the poo bag was disposed of and maybe included the dog in the pic to give him free hands though. I don't like having to get out my phone if I'm juggling dogs leads/bags with their shite in them!!

Was that it for the day then? You didn't do anything wise in the evening?

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MadHattersWineParty · 15/02/2017 18:47

Anything eise*

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BastardBernie · 15/02/2017 18:47

That's just ridiculous. I really feel for you.

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MadHattersWineParty · 15/02/2017 18:47

FFS. Anything ELSE

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Topseyt · 15/02/2017 18:48

Belated Happy Birthday, by the way. Flowers

Drop him in the wet grass.

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StrawberryShortcake32 · 15/02/2017 18:48

Yeah that is pretty childish in itself. Any underlying reasons why he might have done that? Stressed at work? Something happening earlier in the day? Not excusing it, just trying to understand it.

I'm sorry your birthday was pants Cake Flowers

Happy belated birthday!

Aquarians are the most awesome Grin

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SEsofty · 15/02/2017 18:48

Surely there must be some massive back story for him to be so grumpy and still not talking. Even ignoring the fact that it's your birthday and he should make a special effort to be nice

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foodtime · 15/02/2017 18:49

Happy birthday OP!

What a twat face. It seems like he tried to create an argument to get out of buying you something.

Treat yo self to something amazing and forget about him!

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bornonvalentines · 15/02/2017 18:51

Happy birthday to my Valentine twin. What is it about flipping Feb 14 birthdays? Mine was fairly crap too.

Anyway, back to you: how often does this silent treatment last, normally? I'm not liking the sound of him.

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UltimateIdiot · 15/02/2017 18:51

I know what you can get yourself as a birthday present!

A new man Grin

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FlowerOfTheValley · 15/02/2017 18:55

Definite twat. Happy belated Birthday, sorry you had a shit day. Flowers

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furrypets · 15/02/2017 18:58

Glad you're mainly agreeing he's a twat. Yes he's got form for it. Hes usually alright but easily gets wound up. I agree i asked him at a bad time, but there were no bins nearby, and i did attempt to say not to bother when i realised that, but he insisted then that he'd continue. If it'd been me i'd have just dropped my stuff on the floor and done it, he made such a big deal out of it.

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furrypets · 15/02/2017 19:01

Thanks for the birthday wishes, and no didn't do anything else for the rest of the day or night. Still not speaking.

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MadHattersWineParty · 15/02/2017 19:03

Have you tried to confront him? Surely he can't still be sulking about it? He sounds like a big baby, and I'd tell him so. I'd be fuming if DP just pissed all over my birthday like that. He wouldn't though- he's nice and not totally selfish.

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GTS · 15/02/2017 19:05

Good lord! I for one could not live my life on eggshells worrying if it was going to turn into a tantrum.
Clearly there are other things irritating him. I think you need to get to the bottom of why he is so unhappy.
Happy Belated birthday by the way, sorry he made it miserable for you.

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Whocansay · 15/02/2017 19:09

I think you are equally to blame for this. Why did you wait until such an awkward moment for a picture? Did you offer to at least take the lead off him? Having had experience with bags of dog shit, they can be tricky and split open. I wouldn't want to put it down either. You sound like you acted like a bit of a princess, insisting on a photo at that particular moment.
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But no, he shouldn't have thrown your phone on the floor.

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PickAChew · 15/02/2017 19:13

Yep, twat.

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EweAreHere · 15/02/2017 19:15

Wow. Imagine if he had to cope with real adversity...

What a twat indeed.

Happy Birthday, OP. Sorry about your ruined birthday.

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diddl · 15/02/2017 19:17

Good grief!

Couldn't he have given you the dog, chucked the poo bag down somewhere? Or just said later when I haven't got my hands full?

I do think that you were a bot unthinking as well tbh.

But throwing your phone down-not on at all.

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pictish · 15/02/2017 19:18

Well she obviously didn't look and think...oh he's holding a bag of dog poo so this would be the perfect moment for a piccie, did she?

It should have gone;

OP - Take my pic will you?
DH - Can it wait? I'd rather get rid of the dog poo before doing anything else.
OP - Fair enough.

It didn't...and why? Because h is a bad tempered bawbag.

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SquirrelSquad · 15/02/2017 19:19

Why did you let it spoil the whole day? You say that he gets wound up very easily. So does my DP - but he knows that I won't pander to it.

Had it have been my birthday, I would have made other arrangements (cinema, pub with friends, takeaway and DVD, etc). Could you do something like this tonight, or maybe at the weekend? Happy belated birthday, BTW. WineCake

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