A very good friend of mine died a few weeks ago. Have been trying , with other friends to be supportive to her husband who is devastated by her loss. He's a lovely guy, very positive and chatty and cared for my friend at home until the end.
He came for coffee this morning. My DH was on his computer upstairs so I asked if he wanted to come down to join us or if he wanted me to take his coffee upstairs. He came down and sat in virtual silence for about an hour , hardly bothering to join in the conversation. When my friends husband had left I asked him why he had been like that. He replied that he was a quiet person ( not strictly true as I've seen him in company !) and that this man wasn't his sort of person ! Over many years of marriage I have chatted to / fed / gone out with his relatives , his parents neighbours, his work colleagues and his friends. I have raised my voice ( not something I do a lot ) and called him rude and selfish. His reply ? " Oh go away " ....
I made lunch , he's eaten it and is now acting as though nothing has happened. Meanwhile I am inwardly fuming . Was I unreasonable in expecting him to chat to my friends husband pleasantly..... just as a favour to me ?
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4seasons · 15/02/2017 14:11
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