I don't know whether I'm being unreasonable or not but my mother is getting on my nerves over me breastfeeding my baby. She's a real earth mother type, had drug free births, followed attachment parenting when i was a baby when they're wasn't really a name for it, breastfed my sister until she was a toddler.
My first little girl was born 4 years ago and I just presumed I would breastfeed however it didn't work out. I expressed for her and topped up with formula but she was a very challenging baby, always had difficulty feeding even from a bottle and was slow to gain weight so at 3 weeks I switched completely to formula. This whole experience left me feeling guilty, inadequate and very down for a long time.
Fast forward to now, my 2nd baby was born 8 months ago, again I tried to breastfeed and this time it went great. We had trouble at the start, she had a tongue tie released and her latch took a while to improve but since that we've been flying it. Anyway my mum has been weird about the breastfeeding since the start and it's getting my back up, when dd2 was about 2 weeks old she wanted to come over to the house to see the baby feeding. At this stage we had just had the tie snipped, feeding was still very painful (one deformed and cracked nipple) and I had to practically undress for each feed. There's no way I wanted an audience. She makes comments all the time, any time she's holding the baby she asks is she hungry and says oh I've nothing left for you, my milk's all dried up. Even now I was on the phone to her and the baby was shouting a bit, she goes does she need a little suck. These kind of comments are character, aren't you get you know when she's tired, had a dirty nappy eyc, i never knew what to do just popped you on the boob. I'm very comfortable breastfeeding anywhere and in front of anyone except her. If I'm feeding dd2 in front of my mum she stares over, says suck suck suck, only talks about breastfeeding, she can't just ignore it and carry on a normal conversation like everyone else.
She also keeps saying to me that it's amazing and I should be proud of myself where 8 months on I'm just following the easy option, I had such a rough time with dd1 and it was such a struggle that I feel much prouder of overcoming those obstacles.
She's probably just trying to relive that part of her life but it makes me so uncomfortable, I avoid feeding in front of her at all now. I can't imagine saying anything to get, I don't want to hurt her feelings but I feel there's so much mite to raising a baby than the easy they're fed
AIBU?
Mum getting on my nerves about breastfeeding
FunkyFantasticFudgeball · 15/02/2017 10:39
Yes irritating. I remember being very irritated with my dm for always putting a cushion behind my babies when they were way past the falling back stage 
Just tell her to stop commenting it's getting on your tits, literally
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P.s I had an upfront relationship with my mum and used to just tell her if she was annoying me. She was similarly blunt. We really loved each other though...it was fine to be like that. I'd have said, "Mum stop fixating on me bfing...it's weird." and she would have huffed a bit but stopped. I also would have said, "Shut up!" at "suck suck suck" and given her the 
face.
sounds like she's trying to be supportive but massively missing the mark my mum was also an attachment parent before that was a thing (and i have massive love and respect for her for sticking to her guns at a time when she really was considered weird for how she parented) BUT although she bf me until i was 18 months she never batted an eyelid when i couldn't bf ds. she's never been anything but supportive. sounds like your mum means well but needs a frank conversation about how it makes you feel.
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