So DH and I used to have similar jobs. He has changed career paths a few times but still considers himself an expert in his original field. A few years ago I'd gotten stuck in my job - relentless shifts, constantly covering sickness and no clear way out/path to progression, so I took a sideways step and applied for a job that could be considered within his expertise. DH saw it was a prestigious job and was really supportive of me applying though he pointed out (and I knew) I'd need someone to help me prepare for the interview as even though I know my stuff I'm really bad at showing I do, if that makes sense. He was enthusiastic about it but every time he could have helped there was always an excuse not to, and I ended up prepping alone. I knew it would be difficult and unsurprisingly I didn't get the job. DH seemed upset for me at the time but was quick to tell me 'maybe it wasn't right for me' and it was for the best. I forgot about the career move for a few years and life happened in between (bereavements, children etc).
Last year I saw a similar job advertised, so again I went for it. Again DH told me I'd need his help, never got around to it. This time though I was more prepared and was successful. DHs congratulated me but kept saying things like 'well it's not as prestigious as the other job', 'it won't look good on your cv.' and 'how will you explain your career gaps - no one will employ you after this.' A few months in now and he still says these things, even suggested I go back to my old job as it 'suited me better'. I don't think I've made a poor choice, if the job goes well it's probably a good career move and I could potentially be more 'expert' than him in this field. I do appreciate that it's not without risk and hard work though. The problem is coming home to his conatant negativity about it is chipping away at my confidence, and making me doubt myself.
While he may have a point, aibu to think he should be more supportive? Wwyd?
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excusemeitrumped · 14/02/2017 12:31
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