To be a tiddly bit annoyed that OH wasn't listening.

[EverdeRose]

OH and I are meant to be saving money for the wedding, we've done well by cutting out all nights and meals out, there's been a stop on the pre-work starbucks coffee.

He's never been romantic, everything requires lots of hints from me. I've only ever had flowers after I've mentioned a friend/relative getting some.

We spoke a couple of weeks ago about valentines day, I told him I'd make us a special dinner and we could have a romantic night in, I also told him that he didn't have to get me any flowers but asked that if he felt the need to get me something could he get me a certain potted plant i'd been eyeing up at Sainsburys.

I went yesterday and got all the things for our meal tonight, started prepping in the kitchen today when there's a knock a the door, you betcha big bunch of flowers. I was so surprised I phoned OH at work and thanked him,
Me - 'thankyou for the flowers OH, they're beautiful, I really wasn't expecting anything.'
OH - 'why's that'
Me - 'well i said you didn't have to get me any this year with us saving, I know you think they're a waste'
OH - 'oh shit .... I wasn't really paying attention when you said that, erm.... I've also booked us a meal out'

I'm very thrilled about my flowers and my meal out, they're very thoughtful and it'll be nice to eat something other than my own cooking,

But AIBU to wish he'd have pretended he was trying to be romantic and give me a treat instead of him just not listening to me.

[TheWrathFromHighAtopTheThing]

Jeezo, are your diamond shoes too tight as well?

[EverdeRose]

Haha Wrath, if only, then I could sell them, we wouldn't have to save up for this pesky wedding and I could have all the flowers in the world

I'm more than grateful for what he's done but did he really have to say he's only done it because he doesn't bloody listen to me.

[Chloe84]

The potted plant would have lasted longer!

Getting expensive flowers makes my tight fists twitch.

But back to your AIBU, I think YABU a bit unless he never pays attention.

[picklemepopcorn]

Hmm, I'd be irritated that I was cooking a special meal as agreed, and he's booked a table elsewhere.
I think it's a general communication thing- he isn't paying close attention when you speak, and you aren't checking to see if he is listening. It's a two way thing.

If it's any reassurance, 25yrs on I know I need to say things more than once. I'd have reminded him a couple of times since then. Not reminded like I'm his PA, but just mentioned I've done the shopping for tomorrow or something.