Not a TAAT, but a general musing.
There have been a huge number of threads lately (although not a new phenomenon) where posters complain that their mother, MIL, SIL etc are narcs.
There are nowhere as many threads complaining of narcissistic fathers, BILs etc.
Considering that studies show that men show more narcissistic traits than women, and are almost twice as likely to have narcissistic personality disorder, I am curious as to why mumsnetters identify narc traits in so many women around them.
My hypothesis is that this is the result of unconscious bias. We don't begrudge men's self-entitlement as much as we do women's. Therefore we are less likely to recognise narcissistic behaviour in men.
One other possibility is that narc mothers are more likely than narc fathers to use their children to fulfill their narcissistic needs, whereas narc fathers tend to see their children as an annoyance, and therefore tend to be neglectful rather than other, perhaps more obvious, narc behaviours. So their narcissism flies under the radar of 'bad parenting', whereas women are branded as narcs.
Am I the only one who thinks this?
For full disclosure - long time poster, no personal interest in this, no narc in immediate family. I'm just puzzled by the over abundance of female narcs in mumsnetters' lives.
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To think the 'narcissist diagnosis' on MN is sexist?
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Farandole · 14/02/2017 02:19
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