Hi.
I live in a small village. No childcare for over 11's.
I have dd 13.5 and ds 12.
For context, twice a week I don't finish work until 7pm so dc come home from school, play Xbox do homework etc until I get in (work 5 mins away)
They've been doing this since they were 11 and 12.
Yesterday I wanted to go shopping to look at prams (I'm 24+2). nearest shopping centre about half hour away near DPs house. Dc didn't want to come so I left them at home from 10am til about 5pm. They didn't get up til about 12pm, had lunch, then went on phones and pc.
My dd was on a Skype call with her friend and mentioned I was shopping with DP, her friends mum heard and went ape shit and started shouting that it was against the law and that she was telling the school that I was neglecting them, and was asking dd lots of questions that made her feel uncomfortable. Dd got really upset and when I got home half hour later was in tears.
I am so angry with this woman - her dd is wrapped in cotton wool, has never played out or gone to a sleepover, never been to the corner shop on her own and is driven the 2 minutes to school and back.
My dd is still upset - she's ignored her friends messages and won't talk to her in case she gets the 3rd degree again.
I don't know whether to confront this woman. I've never met her and feel that going round all guns blazing (which is what I feel like doing) will only make the situation worse. I'm tempted to just ignore her but feel I should at least say something to her about the way she spoke to my dd, and tell her to keep her nose out of my business.
Fwiw my dc are both mature for their age. Dd is first aid trained and I trust them both implicitly. Dd even babysits for my 7 year old nephew 10-4 every other Saturday for some pocket money while my sister goes to work, and she's now Panicking that it's against the law and she doesn't want to do anything wrong.
Any tips on how I should deal with this parent, and also my dds worries? We looked on the nspcc website together but there are no official guidelines so I don't have anything in black and white to show her.
Thanks
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TheTartOfAsgard · 13/02/2017 18:25
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