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AIBU?

To to wonder that was

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mydshines · 12/02/2017 23:22

About 18 months I went to the local pub with a friend. Amway I remember chatting to a nice guy who is way older but I have a thing for older guys.
We had a great chat but my friend got very upset suddenly (nothing to do with me but she had an argument with someone.)
So she told me let's go and we left abruptly. And being the dutiful friend I did however I never did got his number or anything.
Anyway this weekend I was out shopping in a different town and I went to a lArge store that sells a lot things. Anyway the store manager kept approaching me and kept asking questions anyway I was a bit rattled as I wasn't not looking my best as was shopping with my man friend. Who needed the items. He asked me where I worked. Where I lived. I was a bit puzzled.
We started chatting again due to a lovely item. And we had a lovely conversation at the end of it the man nice chatting to you Mary my name. I was WTF. Because I remember not giving him my name and then when I asked him he blushed. He didn't say when or where. Which really annoyed me. But in a good way . Anyway I racked my brain who could it be and he was the logical person.
Am I aibu to suggest that anyone that can remember my name is their something more to this. And also aibu to go back to the store on my next day off looking all glammed up with my sister to see if there a spark or what. I take my sister as a Cover so I won't look all desperate asking to test the beds lol
I on a high after this brief encounter
I'm really happy all weekend

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OneWithTheForce · 12/02/2017 23:29

Yeah.

Littlepeople12345 · 12/02/2017 23:31

What was the lovely item?

Salmotrutta · 12/02/2017 23:31

Ok

CaoNiMa · 13/02/2017 05:22

What's the correlation between Random Pub Bloke and shop manager chappy?

Fighterofthenightman · 13/02/2017 05:26

Is this supposed to make sense?

crankyfranky · 13/02/2017 05:38

Agree with Fighter... what are you on about???

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 13/02/2017 05:42

So you were chatted up by a "psychic" store manager..
Because you're so gorgeous and important that he has nothing better to do .
Erm oooookkkkaaayyy. That happened

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 13/02/2017 05:46

Eh? Are you saying it was the same man as the bloke in the pub 18 months ago?

Amiexpectingtoomuch · 13/02/2017 05:47

I think the op is saying that she thinks the store manager was the older guy she met in the pub but didn't recognise him at first. However thinking about it he's the most logical person to fit the puzzle as to how he knew her name.

That's how I read it anyway. It isn't very clear I agree!

MagicChicken · 13/02/2017 05:49

I on a high

Yes, I think you are..... Or perhaps a tad drunk?!

Fighterofthenightman · 13/02/2017 05:53

So you're getting all excited because you think this bloke is a bloke you met 18 months ago and he remembered your name so you think there's 'more to it'?.

And you've been on a high all weekend because of it? Are you sure you're not on a high because it's half term?

mydshines · 13/02/2017 16:09

Well I don't get chatted very often. So I get the validation that I'm not that horrible. Which made me on a high that weekend. I have lost weight and working on my self esteem issues. Yes that person must be that guy in the pub
My man friend told me he said he was a bit cheeky to do that as he could have been in a relationship with me. However I think it's sweet that I left the impression on him that he remembers me.
Anyway I decided that I will glam up and just to see him again. As I don't want to wonder did he like me. And wonder what if. He better be working that day

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MommaGee · 13/02/2017 16:14

I wouldn't go too glam - he approached ypu and spoke to you when you were looking rough, so I'd go for smart casual.
I agree with your friend that its a bit cheeky but I guess he responded to lack of ring and your reciprocity to his flirting.
You've nothing to loose

CaoNiMa · 13/02/2017 16:15

You've set the bar pretty low, OP! I'm sure you aren't in the least bit horrible, but it's good that you're working on your self esteem. Maybe stick with doing that for a bit, instead of going all out pursuing this guy?

WrittenandGrown · 13/02/2017 17:40

So are you not sure it's the same man?

LurkingQuietly · 13/02/2017 17:47

Have you not spoken to anyone else in the past 18 months who may have remembered your name? Totally bizarre to think it was him when you spoke to him in the pub, you spoke to him in the shop, but you did not recognise him or mention being attracted to him. Odd, odd, odd. Sorry.

bloodymaria · 13/02/2017 17:50

Ah good luck to you. I'm not sure I understand at all what's going on here but if you're happy (?) then it's all good. I suppose.

SparklyMagpie · 13/02/2017 18:03

Hmm it might not be that guy but I guess you've got nothing to lose, just don't overdo it. He may have just been being really polite

Can I just ask, are you in the UK OP? Just I notice quite a few posters are questioning how you've written, and if im honest, it was quite confusing to understand so i had to guess what you was going on about ha, so just wondering

mrswishywashy1 · 13/02/2017 18:10

Is your name Sharon op ?

SparklyMagpie · 13/02/2017 18:12

mrswishywashy1 now that would make sense !!

MaidOfStars · 14/02/2017 10:57

Am I aibu to suggest that anyone that can remember my name is their something more to this
I think so. I remember lots of names.

And also aibu to go back to the store on my next day off looking all glammed up with my sister to see if there a spark or what
Was there not a spark on this last visit?

My man friend told me he said he was a bit cheeky to do that as he could have been in a relationship with me
Cheeky to do what? Talk to you?

OP, I think you need to continue working on your self-esteem.

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Maudlinmaud · 14/02/2017 11:01

My brain hurts.

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mydshines · 14/02/2017 15:10

NO I don't live in the UK. I think I do it tomorrow. But I hope he be working . Well when we spoke in the pub that night I remember thinking he is a nice man. And even talking to him in the shop I thought he was a nice man.
I think deep down I am attracted to nice older man. My sister is going with me tomorrow she thinks I am reading in to this but it's been a long time since I'm this happy . I updated tomorrow

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DeterminedToChange · 14/02/2017 15:12

Two things.

What do you mean, he must be the same man? Don't you remember him?

Older men get less attractive to you the older you get. Be warned!

Zaphodsotherhead · 14/02/2017 15:15

I am a shop assistant. I am friendly to all my customers, I remember their names, ask after their families, give them advice (if asked!) and chat about all sorts of stuff.

I do not fancy any of them. It's my job to be friendly. There is the possiblity that this man overheard you and your friend talking and therefore picked up your name etc? But, if it makes you happy, go back smarter and get talking again. Just don't pin too much on it, being friendly is a huge part of selling people things!

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