To exaggerate/lie about stupid things?(5 Posts)
Moved to a new job a few months ago, all going fine but recently came off anti anxiety meds and it's really affecting me - in the eighth week or so on, and think I'm feeling better but it's been tough.
I feel like I am having a hard trouble fitting in with new workmates - felt like all was fine at the beginning but I am getting stupidly anxious about small things and then over-compensating by doing stupid things. I have taken a few days off at the last minute this week, which isn't that common, but I was able to as currently had capacity at work (it's a project based industry) - I was embarrassed to tell workmates that it was all in order to get some space to clear my head/stay at home/relax, so said I was going on a trip away with friends. This was actually something I did a few weeks back so not out of the ordinary, but obviously not quite the truth.
I then stupidly white-lied to someone that I was meeting up with a male friend this weekend - he is someone I have met up with before, they don't know him so all fine, we've been on dates... But I'm not seeing him this weekend!! I don't know why I said it. Misplaced attempt at girly bonding perhaps?! Stupidly the times/dates I've given for this so-called date cross-over with my little break that I've said I'm going on.
I doubt anyone is invested in this/cares but I want to figure out (a) why I feel the need to exaggerate/lie - it's out of character for me and (b) whether they might find out. Also, a strategy going forward to breeze through this stupid episode and move on/be normal essentially.
I am now seeking a form of therapy btw, so all ok - but advice welcomed. I know Im overthinking...
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I do this too, I have no idea why but then I have a lot of odd social quirks, I hate social situations and often overcompensate by acting super perky and friendly, sharing far too much info or lying/exxagerating things. Never anything big but silly insignificant things like you do. I Dont even realise I'm doing it half the time till DH mentions it.
OH does this all the time. He just likes to impress people, he admires a lot of the people he works with/under and wants to match their lifestyle I guess. He also does it online because he likes to be the funny cool poster who gets lots of likes. Have just accepted its part of who he is and a relatively harmless way of coping with some insecurities he has. Unless it escalates beyond silly fibs it doesn't concern me and I don't think it should you.
I am a completely genuine open person (who is probably a great deal older than you) but have also done this.
It's s weird thing and I almost don't realise I've done it until it's out of my mouth and then I'm thinking "where on earth did that come from?" My ego I guess -- that clearly needs some managing!
It's a learning experience and I think, if you are self aware and able to reflect you will do it less.
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