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So my wife and I have been married for many years and i am heavily involved in my two teenage stepchildren lives dss and dsd. I believe personally I am a good dad and stepdad and have always tried to treat them like my own. I have a good relationship with both of them as do my children (despite occasions issues).
My wife left her ex my stepchildren dad when they were still young. He was emotionally abusive and it as far as I'm a aware was abusive relationship. He has been in and out of my children's lives but mostly has stayed away but every so often makes contact.
My stepchildren both decided last year for Father's Day to begin the adoption process (came as a suprise to us and was entirely their decision). They wanted to show their appreciation as they said it.
However this did not go down well with their bio dad. He has more of a relationship with dss then with dsd.
Bio dad has sent messages to his son containing racist abuse about me and my family calling us p**kis and other slurs. He has said stuff along the lines of that he doesn't want an Indian raising his children and that I'm taking away their English identity. It's obviously racist crap, because my family have been in this country for 3 generations and 2 generations we are not that Indian. I don't even speak Punjabi.
But how would you address such statements when he says things like this to my stepchildren or wife and we have given up on adoption. Also is it a police matter or just a bigots view ?
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Eddie19 · 12/02/2017 17:02
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