My father has been in sporadic contact with me for most of my life. To give some context, he committed marital rape and was a bit .. odd. DM said she frequently found him masturbating on the sofa once we were in bed , we had internet and cable television very early (before most people we knew) for the sole purpose of pornography.
As a child (very early 90s) there was a concern I was sexually abused by him or at risk of it. Social services were involved anyway and I know they spoke to me when I was 3 or 4. I had symptoms that suggested issues but equally might have been totally innocent. Conclusion was that he wasn't doing anything.
He has sent me texts over the last 4 years or so. They have been odd at times. He has asked me to send him pictures with a smiley face and keeps saying he wants to see me in person. Lots of kisses. I am very affectionate in general but I havent seen him in 20 years. I don't know what he means but I'm not feeling right about it and I don't think it's 'normal'.
I asked my mum, she's not very happy, and said to cut all contact. All other persons I know, his family, my family, don't want me to talk to him at all. I had to see a psychiatrist when I was 19 and I remember they were not happy with the situation.
I want to cut contact completely but I don't know how to do that. He will phone and text persistently if I do, he will send me guilt tripping stuff, emotional blackmail (I get messages about what would I do if he could no longer contact me) , all sorts. I don't know what to think or do. I don't want him in my life, I know that.
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ichangedmynameforthis12 · 12/02/2017 13:13
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