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WorriedWendyWoooooo Sat 11-Feb-17 21:46:50

Feel sick and have no idea what to do sad

Aeroflotgirl Sat 11-Feb-17 21:48:14

I am not sure, hope your ok flowers and hugs. Is there anyone in real life you can talk to?

PicardsCombOver Sat 11-Feb-17 21:48:18

Hi Worried smile is reporting a tape something you have just done or something you're thinking about doing? X

WorriedWendyWoooooo Sat 11-Feb-17 21:48:28

Will they take me seriously if I've had sex with him before and was drinking?

Will they question him straight away?

The80sweregreat Sat 11-Feb-17 21:49:22

No advice, but sorry this has happened. Big hug. Take care.

PicardsCombOver Sat 11-Feb-17 21:50:42

Ime, I spoke on the phone to a policeman who asked me why I was reporting it, then I was given a time and date to make a statement to a (female) officer at a police station which was recorded. The room itself was very much like a living room and you won't be rushed. X

PicardsCombOver Sat 11-Feb-17 21:52:25

Worried I reported an ex boyfriend with whom I had previously had consensual sex and was taken seriously, so yes. The police did not give me specific details but they did tell me when he was arrested and bailed. flowers

WorriedWendyWoooooo Sat 11-Feb-17 21:53:27

OK thank you.

SmileEachDay Sat 11-Feb-17 21:54:26

Have you been in touch with the police yet?

SmileEachDay Sat 11-Feb-17 21:56:13

This is helpful, esp the part about SARACs

PicardsCombOver Sat 11-Feb-17 21:56:29

Worried you are under no pressure at all, it must be your choice smile if you are going to report it is best id you do it asap to improve chances of a conviction x

SmileEachDay Sat 11-Feb-17 21:56:35

[[ www.nhs.uk/Livewell/Sexualhealth/Pages/Sexualassault.aspx#SARCs ]]

I would imagine it depends how long ago the rape happened. If you haven't washed etc you will probably have to go for a medical (not sure that is the right term). If it's quite recent (as in tonight) I assume they would probably arrest quite quickly for evidence. I think they tend to try and arrest people quite quickly if it's happened very recently but I think if it's historic then it can take longer for an arrest

I have been through a rape type interview (sexually abused) and it was done (from memory over 10yrs ago) in a place that looked like a house. You sit in a room which is recorded and are asked questions. You will be allowed to take someone with you but they won't be allowed in the interview flowers

WorriedWendyWoooooo Sat 11-Feb-17 22:00:58

It happened this morning.

It sounds stupid but I kind of went into shock and just thought "wtf" and then went to work like I normally do blush.

SmileEachDay Sat 11-Feb-17 22:03:07

Is it someone you live with OP? Are you safe?

Do not wash any clothes/bedding. Even if you don't report it tonight as evidence will still be on them.

Just because you have consensual sex at one time doesn't mean it's up for grabs all the time. That's why rape in marriage is a crime.

It took me years to report the sexual abuse I went through. Even though nothing happened with it reporting it made it easier for me to deal with and move forward

WorriedWendyWoooooo Sat 11-Feb-17 22:09:23

Not someone I live with.

It was my ex. I went over to his to drop some things off but then he refused to let me leave until I'd had sex with him. When I refused he pushed me down and did it anyway.

I then went to work and just pretended nothing had happened sad

NeedsAsockamnesty Sat 11-Feb-17 22:11:22

Each area is different and it also depends on time scales.

I was collected from the street in a police car taken to the vulnerable victim unit at my local police station, I was interviewed on camera then taken to a room next door, waiting in there was a police doctor who checked me out and took various swobs and the such like, it was ascertained during this exam that I needed medical attention so I was then taken to the hospital.

I was then taken home.

I had a visit some weeks later from a police officer who told me that the cps had elected to not take it to court but that the 5 men involved had been re arrested for another rape and that that one was going to court.

Over 20 years later I have operation conifer show up on my doorstep needing me to relive it all

WorriedWendyWoooooo Sat 11-Feb-17 22:11:56

Sorry was drinking last night. Am a heavy drinker and ex knows this and he knew I had been drinking last night. I keep thinking nobody will take me seriously now.

123beanie Sat 11-Feb-17 22:12:37

I don't have any advice but didn't want to just read this and leave it. I'm so so sorry this has happened to you OP. flowersflowersflowers

WorriedWendyWoooooo Sat 11-Feb-17 22:12:38

Am not making any sense am I? <sigh>

Need to shut up, have a bath and stop talking shite.

Coldilox Sat 11-Feb-17 22:12:57

Am a rape detective, currently at work so can't type loads out, but the sooner you report the better. You will be taken seriously. I'd advise not to put loads of details here, wait to tell police.

NeedsAsockamnesty Sat 11-Feb-17 22:13:01

Sorry I posted to soon.

Even despite all that I still feel that it was worth reporting and I still felt better about it after I did. X

SmileEachDay Sat 11-Feb-17 22:13:51

Are you able to tell someone in RL?

NeedsAsockamnesty Sat 11-Feb-17 22:14:02

Please don t have a bath yet

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